"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How can a guy get a woman to flirt with him?

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I find that women are generally platonic on first dates and expect the guy to initiate everything and she can choose to reject, or proceed and play along.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Spray them with diarrhea of love
You are joking. I googled search and there is no such pheromone with that name.

I'm not joking. The only reason I don't use pheromones is because I live at home and my mother reacts violently to them. There are allot of nice self-effects with them too. To be honest, I used pheromones more because of the effects it had on me. I also stopped using them on December 6, 2014 and lost interest after that date when they didn't work to stop a panic attack. (i.e. thought it had at least a usefulness for doing this but it did not work)

They had a pheromone called "Instant Shine" which put you in a "feel good" mood instantly so you are able to have a better positive wavelength that is conducive to making approaches rather than feeling tired or low energy and shying away.
They had this putative pheromone that made me more sensitive to nuances within music so you could hear each individual instrument or vocal within a song piece more fluidly and sharply.
Some people used pheormones for the gym because it boosted their testosterone or something and made them more motivated to lift iron or do a heavy work-out.

As secondary to some of these amazing self-effects, yeah, pheromones elicit responses in women that go out of context to the social situation. At the very least, spraying it on symbolises a commitment to want to improve and want a woman on some level to go that far.

I think there is allot of pheromones out there and it's worth trying different brands by trial and error until you find something that works for you. If all people can do is just knock the idea then what alternative are they offering in terms of advice that you don't already know?
 

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Basically
Evolve.

Commence
Hungering for
Anything
Decent.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I find that women are generally platonic on first dates and expect the guy to initiate everything and she can choose to reject, or proceed and play along.
Not exactly correct.

If the 1st date was initiated by her, she will do her best to impress the man.

And you can then choose to reject, or proceed and play along.

Wouldn't that be better?

Oh and if u r wondering how to be invited out by women, it's easy, be high valued and have a social presence with influence.
 

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Oh and if u r wondering how to be invited out by women, it's easy, be high valued and have a social presence with influence.
That's accurate, but I wouldn't say it's easy, unless you have a proclivity for it. If not, that could take quite a bit of work, creativity, and self improvement.
 

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I find that women are generally platonic on first dates and expect the guy to initiate everything and she can choose to reject, or proceed and play along.
Then you are not very good on first dates. I'd bet you are boring them to death.
 

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How can a guy get a woman to flirt with him?
How many licks does it take to get to the center of a Tootsie-Pop?

lets count the ways?
flirt first
kino
smile

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That's accurate, but I wouldn't say it's easy, unless you have a proclivity for it. If not, that could take quite a bit of work, creativity, and self improvement.
Wouldn't that be more enduring then learning how to be more supplicating as the day goes by - chasing girls does exactly that.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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