Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
how exactly do you know thisIn Motion said:There is nothing genetic about homosexuality. It is a state of mind that occurs, sometimes at an early age sometimes later.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
http://richarddawkins.net/article,2401,Gay-scientists-isolate-Christian-gene,Glumbertshaunuk said:just some reading: http://www.skeptictank.org/gaygene.htm
I'm not entirely sure. I mean, look at some gay guys. Some had 'camp' voices and behavior all their lives since they were very little. Surely those sorts of tendencies (i.e. voice, composure and certain aspects of behavior) are genetic AT LEAST to some extent.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
ready123 said:how exactly do you know this
and what do you think about gay animals in the wild?
there are arguments against that toowavejams007 said:Gay animals in the wild is caused by an overpopulation of one sex and a shortage of the other.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
It's happening, and it happens with animals, in the natural world.Colossus said:I dont believe it's genetic. I can see both sides of the debate, but I just don't buy it. Wanting to fvck a member of your own gender is not natural, any way you slice it.
Wow! was there any study into how it is possible for the mothers body to "remember." Or could it be more to do with the subsequent males growing up very closely with their brothers.Deep Dish said:One or two years ago there was a segment of CBS' 60 Minutes II which delved into research conducted by one prominent researcher. When I get the chance, I will try to dig around and find out more information about the 60 Minutes II segment, so as not to be speaking out of my ass, but, to wit, there is scientific evidence to the following:
When a mother has a male child, she starts off with a two percent chance of the son being gay. Then, with every subsequent male child, the chances increase by one-third. Most paradoxically, there is no corresponding increase with lesbian daughters. Somehow, is the suggestion, a mother's body remembers how many sons she has given birth and this plays a factor in sexual orientation.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.