You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
how exactly do you know thisIn Motion said:There is nothing genetic about homosexuality. It is a state of mind that occurs, sometimes at an early age sometimes later.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
http://richarddawkins.net/article,2401,Gay-scientists-isolate-Christian-gene,Glumbertshaunuk said:just some reading: http://www.skeptictank.org/gaygene.htm
I'm not entirely sure. I mean, look at some gay guys. Some had 'camp' voices and behavior all their lives since they were very little. Surely those sorts of tendencies (i.e. voice, composure and certain aspects of behavior) are genetic AT LEAST to some extent.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
ready123 said:how exactly do you know this
and what do you think about gay animals in the wild?
there are arguments against that toowavejams007 said:Gay animals in the wild is caused by an overpopulation of one sex and a shortage of the other.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
It's happening, and it happens with animals, in the natural world.Colossus said:I dont believe it's genetic. I can see both sides of the debate, but I just don't buy it. Wanting to fvck a member of your own gender is not natural, any way you slice it.
Wow! was there any study into how it is possible for the mothers body to "remember." Or could it be more to do with the subsequent males growing up very closely with their brothers.Deep Dish said:One or two years ago there was a segment of CBS' 60 Minutes II which delved into research conducted by one prominent researcher. When I get the chance, I will try to dig around and find out more information about the 60 Minutes II segment, so as not to be speaking out of my ass, but, to wit, there is scientific evidence to the following:
When a mother has a male child, she starts off with a two percent chance of the son being gay. Then, with every subsequent male child, the chances increase by one-third. Most paradoxically, there is no corresponding increase with lesbian daughters. Somehow, is the suggestion, a mother's body remembers how many sons she has given birth and this plays a factor in sexual orientation.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.