You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
how exactly do you know thisIn Motion said:There is nothing genetic about homosexuality. It is a state of mind that occurs, sometimes at an early age sometimes later.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
http://richarddawkins.net/article,2401,Gay-scientists-isolate-Christian-gene,Glumbertshaunuk said:just some reading: http://www.skeptictank.org/gaygene.htm
I'm not entirely sure. I mean, look at some gay guys. Some had 'camp' voices and behavior all their lives since they were very little. Surely those sorts of tendencies (i.e. voice, composure and certain aspects of behavior) are genetic AT LEAST to some extent.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
ready123 said:how exactly do you know this
and what do you think about gay animals in the wild?
there are arguments against that toowavejams007 said:Gay animals in the wild is caused by an overpopulation of one sex and a shortage of the other.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
It's happening, and it happens with animals, in the natural world.Colossus said:I dont believe it's genetic. I can see both sides of the debate, but I just don't buy it. Wanting to fvck a member of your own gender is not natural, any way you slice it.
Wow! was there any study into how it is possible for the mothers body to "remember." Or could it be more to do with the subsequent males growing up very closely with their brothers.Deep Dish said:One or two years ago there was a segment of CBS' 60 Minutes II which delved into research conducted by one prominent researcher. When I get the chance, I will try to dig around and find out more information about the 60 Minutes II segment, so as not to be speaking out of my ass, but, to wit, there is scientific evidence to the following:
When a mother has a male child, she starts off with a two percent chance of the son being gay. Then, with every subsequent male child, the chances increase by one-third. Most paradoxically, there is no corresponding increase with lesbian daughters. Somehow, is the suggestion, a mother's body remembers how many sons she has given birth and this plays a factor in sexual orientation.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.