Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
I still say David dAngelo's "Double Your Dating" is pretty good. It's an easy read and the stuff works. It may not answer everything for everyone but it can create a solid foundation.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Girl who is quite the conversationalist
- Thread starter white cloud 8
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Skydiver43127
Senior Don Juan
Dude, do not throw away the piece of wisdom given here. We talk from experience. Girls do not want to talk. They just prefer talk cause it's easier. Smart men do that too and stat's why we fail with women.
"I'm just learning to have fun" = "I want you to f*ck me".
She doesn't know this, but her subconscious mind knows, and expects you to know. Be gentle, do not rush things, but do not give her the impression that you are a clueless idiot who does not know what it's all about. You can have the conversations later.
"I'm just learning to have fun" = "I want you to f*ck me".
She doesn't know this, but her subconscious mind knows, and expects you to know. Be gentle, do not rush things, but do not give her the impression that you are a clueless idiot who does not know what it's all about. You can have the conversations later.
white cloud 8
Senior Don Juan
Skydiver43127 said:
I'll step it up tomorrow, we're going for a late afternoon bite to eat. I'll just go with the flow, see what happens. Since I introduced light kino earlier on, I just have to progress it in stages (so that becomes comfortable with it) or else she'll wonder whats going on.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Understand that "going with the flow" is a defensive maneuver and if she's waiting for you to make a move, you'll get nowhere.
white cloud 8
Senior Don Juan
Francisco d'Anconia said:
NOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
lol....I won't be passive, I'll have to keep my eyes peeled for cue(s). Are there some things I should be aware of or are they quite obvious if I just pay attention :yes:."Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
white cloud 8
Senior Don Juan
Sometimes I really feel...helpless about trying to escalate things (kissing, touching, sex etc.) it is frustrating and sort of a downer. I guess because I haven't much experience in those areas (so things that I am attempting are sort of like going into uncharted territory) don't really know the outcome(s)?
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Stop worrying about the touching, kissing and sex until she becomes familiar, comfortable and attracted to you. Work on those first and the rest will come. Pace yourself.