Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
I still say David dAngelo's "Double Your Dating" is pretty good. It's an easy read and the stuff works. It may not answer everything for everyone but it can create a solid foundation.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Girl who is quite the conversationalist
- Thread starter white cloud 8
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Skydiver43127
Senior Don Juan
Dude, do not throw away the piece of wisdom given here. We talk from experience. Girls do not want to talk. They just prefer talk cause it's easier. Smart men do that too and stat's why we fail with women.
"I'm just learning to have fun" = "I want you to f*ck me".
She doesn't know this, but her subconscious mind knows, and expects you to know. Be gentle, do not rush things, but do not give her the impression that you are a clueless idiot who does not know what it's all about. You can have the conversations later.
"I'm just learning to have fun" = "I want you to f*ck me".
She doesn't know this, but her subconscious mind knows, and expects you to know. Be gentle, do not rush things, but do not give her the impression that you are a clueless idiot who does not know what it's all about. You can have the conversations later.
white cloud 8
Senior Don Juan
Skydiver43127 said:
I'll step it up tomorrow, we're going for a late afternoon bite to eat. I'll just go with the flow, see what happens. Since I introduced light kino earlier on, I just have to progress it in stages (so that becomes comfortable with it) or else she'll wonder whats going on.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Understand that "going with the flow" is a defensive maneuver and if she's waiting for you to make a move, you'll get nowhere.
white cloud 8
Senior Don Juan
Francisco d'Anconia said:
NOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
lol....I won't be passive, I'll have to keep my eyes peeled for cue(s). Are there some things I should be aware of or are they quite obvious if I just pay attention :yes:."She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
white cloud 8
Senior Don Juan
Sometimes I really feel...helpless about trying to escalate things (kissing, touching, sex etc.) it is frustrating and sort of a downer. I guess because I haven't much experience in those areas (so things that I am attempting are sort of like going into uncharted territory) don't really know the outcome(s)?
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Stop worrying about the touching, kissing and sex until she becomes familiar, comfortable and attracted to you. Work on those first and the rest will come. Pace yourself.