Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I don't know if you're being sarcastic.Right. Low calorie intake is seen to be good for longevity.
No I was not sarcasticI don't know if you're being sarcastic.
A good way to be healthy is to monitor your cholesterol ratio of LDL to HDL. Also to get advanced tests on your arteries. For example, you can get an ultrasound on your heart, you can get a stress test where you wear a heart monitor while running on a treadmill, and you can get a "cardiac calcium test" where they can see if any plaque has begun to form in your coronary artery.No I was not sarcastic
Correct. The rule is… pick two:if you look at strongmen of the past - they were big but also fat. It’s hard to be both big and lean without test,Winnie and clen.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
This is all you realistically need, it appeals to the largest demographic of women. Most women don't want a guy as big as Ronnie coleman despite what a lot of Gym guys think.I trained constantly - really hard for a year and a half and ate perfectly and all I got was the toned, athletic kinda non professional swimmer look
You do realize women are not going to go up to a guy and say that, right? The guy still has to approach, carry a conversation, charm, get the number and escalate accordingly. Guys who are BAD with women cannot do this. NOTHING will change that. They still have to interact with these women, display good socials skills and emotional intelligence, know what to say, when to say it, etc. Muscles doesn't suddenly solve all of this. It's very naive and ignorant to think it does.
I am not big, not that tall, and put my jacked friends to shame when it comes to getting women. They have focused on the gym, I have focused on psychology. Reading people, situations, knowing when to be mysterious, how to use social proof, mastered being non-reactive, don't chase, smooth talker, comfortable in any situation. You think working out gives you the edge on me? I'm not trying to be a d!ck, I'm just telling you that social intelligence is what dictates how well you do with women. That is the bottom line.
agreed most muscular guys are just fat dudes with strength. In addition, I think most of these gun bros have low testosterone count and are basically sterilizedHaving large muscles has absolutely nothing to do with being healthy. It is all just for show.
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The top 10 causes of death
WHO act sheet on the 10 leading causes of death. In 2023, the 10 leading causes of death accounted for 33 million deaths, or 54% of the total 61 million deaths worldwide. The top global causes of death, in order of total number of lives lost, are associated with two broad topics: cardiovascular...www.who.int
Show me on this list where it says "cause of death = muscles not large enough." The only part of gym that might help you is the cardio. Diet is WAY more important in preventing arterial blockages.
I've known this for a long time and confirmed it by asking several doctors. I will listen to the doctor with the MD rather than the "bro science" gym rat. And you should do.
You are correct in that "large muscles" have little to do with health however muscle and their strength very much do have to do with health. I rarely take any diet and fitness advice from my doctor, whom is slightly overweight and had a total of 2 weeks instruction on nutrition in medical school. They tow the industry dogma and doctors aren't any healthier than the rest of the population with their "knowledge." Bodybuilders/ Athletes may not use their knowledge in the healthiest ways, but many are masters at understanding and manipulating their bodies for the wanted response. As we age are hormones diminish. As they diminish, we lose muscle mass and bone density (Sarcopenia/ Osteoporosis). This is also a way to get it's nutrients, protein & calcium in lieu of insufficient diet. Eventually, this is not enough so the body starts in on the organs. This is the beginning or the end. So the more muscles and bone mass you have entering later stages of life, the better and healthier you will be. On the "Cause of Death list is Heart disease, Diabetes, kidney disease, and Alzheimer's. Some call Alzheimer's type 3 Diabetes. All of those are metabolic disorders and almost always have the component of insulin resistance within the disorder. Go on PubMed and you will see the irrefutable evidence that resistance training has had a positive effect at reducing and/or eliminating many of these Metabolic disorders. Chronic and extreme cardio ravage the body. It floods the body with stress hormone and suppresses the immune system and breaks down bone and muscle. Many marathoners get flu like symptom after running a race because of this. I'll concede that cardio is good but for most people, walking, sprints, or rucking is adequate. Cardio is for healthy circulation and heart. Cardio should not be a tool for weight loss. Humans were meant to be active. 75-100 years ago, gyms weren't really needed because living life provided the necessary stimulus our bodies required. Your body doesn't give a **** if you throw hay bails feeding the cattle or you did power cleans as long as it's working. But today as life continues to get "easier" we get softer. I'll leave you with a quote from WAPO and a picture I put on another post. world class distance runner (aerobic) vs world class sprinter (anaerobic). Who would you rather follow?Having large muscles has absolutely nothing to do with being healthy. It is all just for show.
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The top 10 causes of death
WHO act sheet on the 10 leading causes of death. In 2023, the 10 leading causes of death accounted for 33 million deaths, or 54% of the total 61 million deaths worldwide. The top global causes of death, in order of total number of lives lost, are associated with two broad topics: cardiovascular...www.who.int
Show me on this list where it says "cause of death = muscles not large enough." The only part of gym that might help you is the cardio. Diet is WAY more important in preventing arterial blockages.
I've known this for a long time and confirmed it by asking several doctors. I will listen to the doctor with the MD rather than the "bro science" gym rat. And you should do.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
If a jacked/ripped guy is socially awkward, socially uncalibrated, doesn't have a clue how to handle women, he is still going to get rejected. It just may take a few days longer before he gets the "You're such a nice guy. Let's just be friends". A lot of guys who are not jacked/ripped but are not socially awkward, is calibrated, and understands how women function do pretty well for them selves. The majority of the population manages to have babies at some point, and the majority isn't jacked/ripped. What might solve 90% of the issues here is if guys forcus on women that are in their own class instead of focusing on women that they will never get then crying that they got rejected.it will fix almost everything ..
Many females in USA have a delusional sense of what "league" they're in. Makes it difficult to communicate with them in any realistic way. Plus, relationships are boring.If a jacked/ripped guy is socially awkward, socially uncalibrated, doesn't have a clue how to handle women, he is still going to get rejected. It just may take a few days longer before he gets the "You're such a nice guy. Let's just be friends". A lot of guys who are not jacked/ripped but are not socially awkward, is calibrated, and understands how women function do pretty well for them selves. The majority of the population manages to have babies at some point, and the majority isn't jacked/ripped. What might solve 90% of the issues here is if guys forcus on women that are in their own class instead of focusing on women that they will never get then crying that they got rejected.
Yes. And they think horny drunk guys wanting them means that they're super hot.it’s common.
they don’t realise that a dude wanting to lay pipe in them doesn’t mean they’re in his league.
women only want to fvck guys they think are their league or higher. Men will fvck anything passable
therefore they think “this alpha railed me. I’m in the big leagues”
then they moan on about men’s lack of commitment, when it’s just their fault for misunderstanding the nature of both sexes
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That doesn't negate what I said about the guys,...it just makes it more critical that the guy have a more correct sense of reality.Many females in USA have a delusional sense of what "league" they're in. Makes it difficult to communicate with them in any realistic way. Plus, relationships are boring.
If the 150lb guy doesn't know how to fight, yes. If he's trained as a boxer for a while , he'll knock you flat out. Yeah size makes a difference if it turns into a grapple, but he'll be able to generate a lot of force in a punch via technique.disagree to an extent. Once someone has the basics, or some experience, size becomes a factor.
I am 210 lb. I have very basic training but I doubt a 150lb guy could get me down. How?
I can walk around with them hanging off me. No move can beat that.
plus all I need to do is grab and drop my weight.
As for punching, little guys just can’t knock out bigger guys. I’ve been punched by 300lb tubs of lard and it hurts - a lot.
The weight you carry is really important - even if a lot of it is lard, it makes a massive impact on fighting.
As a bouncer, I can tell you first hand the two reasons that most fights start ..
1. being drunk acting silly and invading peoples personal space
2. Messing with a dudes girl ..
So stay arms length away from dudes you don’t know, respect people’s personal space and if a girl says she has a boyfriend leave it alone because he might be there in the crowd with his boys.
You’ll be good 99% of the time.
[/QUOTEIn response to the title of the thread. Getting ripped is definitely a plus, i disagree with the size though. At least where i am, theres a fine margin between good shape and too big. The leaner you are the better your face looks and the better your clothes will fit.
I am on the too big side at the moment, i am definitely not fat but i am stocky and wide as **** and i would give it up to be lean. I've also got a puffy moon face which is ****e so i could do with dropping weight untill i get some sort of jaw. It definately knocks your confidence when your not in shape, you just know you look dire. When your in shape, you can feel it and everyone around you notices is because 90% of the population are not in shape themselves.
Totally with this.. I am very much the same.. I get big real quick... I rather be leaner & defined than just a big azz dude.
I do have definition.. My arms & shoulders look good, however when I start benching, my chest & shoulders develop too quick & if I am not careful I end up looking wide.
Best way to deal with this, is to bulk a little & then cut with diet.. Also try not to lift too heavy.
I am currently lowering the amount of food I eat, so I can become less Jacked lol
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.