"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
FWB Always Backfires? Enjoy It While It Lasts
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Totally distracted by the kid drawings behind him and then he lost me at 1:03.
But yeah, if all she wants is something causal then makes sense don’t invest too much into that. Wear a condom and have fun
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soulforge
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Totally distracted by the kid drawings behind him and then he lost me at 1:03.
But yeah, if all she wants is something causal then makes sense don’t invest too much into that. Wear a condom and have fun
I agree.. However many many guys fall for chicks who treat sex as a casual thing.
They try to persue into a relationship... Do not do it... She will butt fvk you.
If she has a very casual approach to sex. She is a straight up hoe.
Have your fun... But plan an exit date. If she is Toxic.. Then i would suggest 6 weeks of fun, then fukin run from that hoe!!
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
soulforge
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You must set a exit date.. If you think you can keep fukin a slvt forever, then your kidding yourself.
6 weeks.. Then dump her ass!
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Plus she might be cheating on her boyfriend or have some psycho ex. So you really don’t want to drag it out too long anyway.
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Whole thing lasted a week. Lucky as I was severely inexperienced and would have caught feelings fast otherwise. I even said to her "I don't love you, I just wanna fūck you" after our second tryst to try and appear aloof. You should have seen her face drop lmao
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You did well man... You smashed that hoe and moved on.
Some dudes kid themselves into believing they can have regular sex with a damaged sloot for months and months without getting attatched.
I am also guilty of this... What i have learned is, its best to have an exit stratedgy... Limit the time you intend to fuk her for.
If you goof up and catch FEELS for her... Then you guessed it... Another BDP thread on SS lol
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Also some of these sloots will make you feel awesome.
Even though you want FWB some of these chicks will love bomb you and play the perfect girlfriend role, till you catch FEELS or commit.
They are chameleons.. The longer you stay in the FWB type situation the riskier it gets
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Also if she is FWB only then the red flags are probably stopping you from going exclusive with her.
Overtime when the love bombing starts and she acts the perfect girlfriend, you will more than likely overlook the red flags.
And this will eventually be your downfall boyo.
Those red flags will come back and bite you in the ass.