You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That may be the problem. If you are looking to date guys, that's fine, but I think this guy is attractive to women. Try one of the guys for guys apps if that's what you are after. ;'pI want guys who are successful on OLD to post pics of themselves.
Didn't I type something similar?The best pictures are the ones visibly taken by someone other than yourself, it won't look like you're an asocial weirdo.
Yeah, kinda. Don't necessarily need professional photos, but at least have someone else take them and give at least some thought about lighting and setting.Didn't I type something similar?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Trust when I say, pro photos for 150 - 200 are well worth it. If you are in a big city, even more important. This bro looks like Toby McGuire. He'll get more tail than a toilet seat with pro pics.Yeah, kinda. Don't necessarily need professional photos, but at least have someone else take them and give at least some thought about lighting and setting.
I'm not talking against you, I'm just offering the alternative for the semi-lazy.Trust when I say, pro photos for 150 - 200 are well worth it. If you are in a big city, even more important. This bro looks like Toby McGuire. He'll get more tail than a toilet seat with pro pics.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.