Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Do you think this pic will do fine on tinder

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Yo lemme know what you think about this cute selfie




took it when was bored. one problem is that i already have shirtless pic on tinder and its rocking so if i put 2 shirtless it may be weird

what u think
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If I have selfies (much less shirtless ones) I get no matches whatsoever all of a sudden. Girls are allergic to them. At the very least get rid of the Snapchat icons or whatever that is at the top.

Also, "cute" selfies? C'mon dude, you're a man...not a hipster vegan metrosexual!

Unless you're just ripped to shreds I doubt you'll get much attention from selfies based off my experience. Though having said that, I live in the middle of "F*cking Nowhere, Population 10" atm so that might have something to do with the dodgy Tinder results rather than the selfies.
 

R.U.G.

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Never knew Toby McGuire was a member at SS. Even Celebs use SS. Hehehe.

In all seriousness, if you want the best chances on tinder for STDs, I mean women, you need professional photos. They know the best light and ways to take the best pics of you in the best light. Check Yelp for some good offers for photographers in your area.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I want guys who are successful on OLD to post pics of themselves.

I was on tinder for two years and never got a match. I don’t know if it’s because of my race, my body type, my facial features, or all of the above. No matter what photos I take, I’m super ugly to women online.

In real life I have a pretty decent success rate.
 

R.U.G.

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I want guys who are successful on OLD to post pics of themselves.
That may be the problem. If you are looking to date guys, that's fine, but I think this guy is attractive to women. Try one of the guys for guys apps if that's what you are after. ;'p
 

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The best pictures are the ones visibly taken by someone other than yourself, it won't look like you're an asocial weirdo.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Yeah, kinda. Don't necessarily need professional photos, but at least have someone else take them and give at least some thought about lighting and setting.
Trust when I say, pro photos for 150 - 200 are well worth it. If you are in a big city, even more important. This bro looks like Toby McGuire. He'll get more tail than a toilet seat with pro pics.
 
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Trust when I say, pro photos for 150 - 200 are well worth it. If you are in a big city, even more important. This bro looks like Toby McGuire. He'll get more tail than a toilet seat with pro pics.
I'm not talking against you, I'm just offering the alternative for the semi-lazy.
 

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A fat girl wud say this picture is too nerdy = too needy = unattractive but he's exactly what I need.

Your mommy wud say this picture is cute.

A cute girl wud say.............................. (swipe next)
 

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Probably not.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I clean up with online dating and I have never taken one selfie. To me, men taking selfies comes off as weird and something only women do. Selfies just comes off as attention seeking and neediness.
 
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