"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Do you think this pic will do fine on tinder
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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Also, "cute" selfies? C'mon dude, you're a man...not a hipster vegan metrosexual!
Unless you're just ripped to shreds I doubt you'll get much attention from selfies based off my experience. Though having said that, I live in the middle of "F*cking Nowhere, Population 10" atm so that might have something to do with the dodgy Tinder results rather than the selfies.
R.U.G.
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In all seriousness, if you want the best chances on tinder for STDs, I mean women, you need professional photos. They know the best light and ways to take the best pics of you in the best light. Check Yelp for some good offers for photographers in your area.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I was on tinder for two years and never got a match. I don’t know if it’s because of my race, my body type, my facial features, or all of the above. No matter what photos I take, I’m super ugly to women online.
In real life I have a pretty decent success rate.
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That may be the problem. If you are looking to date guys, that's fine, but I think this guy is attractive to women. Try one of the guys for guys apps if that's what you are after. ;'p
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Didn't I type something similar?
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Yeah, kinda. Don't necessarily need professional photos, but at least have someone else take them and give at least some thought about lighting and setting.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Trust when I say, pro photos for 150 - 200 are well worth it. If you are in a big city, even more important. This bro looks like Toby McGuire. He'll get more tail than a toilet seat with pro pics.
Serenity
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I'm not talking against you, I'm just offering the alternative for the semi-lazy.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.