You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I could feel the awkward just by watching this video. I'm not surprised he didn't get maced, he wasn't being aggressive enough for that.
Here is a breakdown of subcommunication:
Saying "I like you" is a bad opener, he has no basis to judge that. He's seen her walking for a couple of seconds, so it's plain obvious to any women that he's desperate and say it to get something from them. It's certainly not like saying "I like you" because he knows her and values her personality.
It's even worse to say "I'm attracted to you" because that attraction is purely superficial, it's all he can know after watching a woman walk for a few seconds. It's shows he has poor standards, is naive and seemingly a pretty face and body is enough. What about the person inside the body? Obviously not that important to him.
Asking "do you like me?" reveals his lack of confidence, inability to read cues and of course his desperation. Just like when saying "I like you" he has no basis to say that, neither do women he just met. They can't answer the question because they can't know based on a few seconds of interaction. This guy seems to think attraction is just about looks and completely neglects personality, something that takes a long time to judge.
He doesn't know how to continue a conversation in the rare cases he gets them talking. When he does get them talking he also becomes surprised women talk to him and tell them that. Basically telling women he's not good with women and countless other women don't want him. It's like trying to sell a product saying "wow you want to buy this, nobody else did", I know I would change my mind if I heard that.
That's disgusting, obviously you don't care about the person inside, you're superficial. Judging from how you attack my post in such a retarded way, there's not much of a person left in you to care about. You're an empty shell, you're a piece of meat, you're a nobody.Dude....who cares about the person inside the body. It was a horrible pick up attempt, but let's leave the GAY **** out.
I know within 2 seconds if I want to bang a chick or not.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Nah, he's gay as ****...I'm on to his agendaGuys, let's simmer down so we can keep the thread open.
Zinc, his post was legit. He was saying how can he "like" a woman when he has no idea who she really is. Your response was overly aggressive imo.
You've both had your say so let's move on.