"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Do I have to be an @sshole and ‘bad boy’ with this chick?

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BPH, Duke….Listen I’m currently here in South East Asia and I have no problems, attracting women just by being myself here. But I’m talking to that Western Latina secretary also by text. Do I have to be an @sshole with this one? What do you guys think?

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Most of your text conversations go like this one. I don't see much investment on the girls end. It's you asking basic questions about daily life. There's not much intriguing or captivating about it. It's pretty surface. Does she reach out to you if you don't text her for a few days?

I'd of taken that checkpoint question any got some mileage out of that and turned it sexual/funny. Ask her if they found her vibrator in her bag? If she got strip searched, etc. Tell her you are going to have her extradited to the Philippines for the weekend and she won't need to pack many clothes.
 
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Spike it up. Make her feel things. The last thing she wants is to participate in a boring chat. You've been chatting for months and this is your dynamic? You are currently being used for attention, and placed in the "harmless nice guy / g4y friend" category.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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why are you interested (for now) in the remote girl when you have abundance within walking distance ??
 

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OP if she's on a road trip say how much you love taking them in a convertible with the top down and your shirt off. Get her brain out of boring mode. Don't talk about how exciting airport are, because they're not.
 

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BPH, Duke….Listen I’m currently here in South East Asia and I have no problems, attracting women just by being myself here. But I’m talking to that Western Latina secretary also by text. Do I have to be an @sshole with this one? What do you guys think?

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So what's holding you back from expressing yourself? Answering that question is going to be the key to solving this puzzle.

You'll be more desirable to women when you express yourself more openly and effectively than this.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Most of your text conversations go like this one. I don't see much investment on the girls end. It's you asking basic questions about daily life. There's not much intriguing or captivating about it. It's pretty surface. Does she reach out to you if you don't text her for a few days?

I'd of taken that checkpoint question any got some mileage out of that and turned it sexual/funny. Ask her if they found her vibrator in her bag? If she got strip searched, etc. Tell her you are going to have her extradited to the Philippines for the weekend and she won't need to pack many clothes.
THIS!!

If OP REALLY wants to improve he'd answer this thoroughly

And dont get me wrong; I'd say most men (including me) probably have had more conversations like this than actual magnetic successful connections. .

But. .the major difference between ( for example) me and OP is that I would conclude the following;

- she isn't that interested...
- nor is she that interesting
- I'm chasing /wanting it more than her
- I look for validation among my peers on the forum
- I need to use my leverage more
- eventually I gotta let her go
-I CANT keep getting the same results. Time to change up my method operandi


OP, you ask whether you should be a @sshole? Imo you ask if you should mirror her behaviour as she is b1tchy and dry. And here's my anwer;
No ,you ain't that guy. You're not a badboy.

But what do you have?
You have the most valuable assests. Time and money. When it comes to those you are MILES ahead of me...the conundrum of life huh...when yiu was building up wealth I was seeking validation from the streets and from love . I might've slept with some women,but it got me nowhere...

You should dangle those asests( time and money) in the faces of these women just to see how it goes..
 

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THIS!!

If OP REALLY wants to improve he'd answer this thoroughly

And dont get me wrong; I'd say most men (including me) probably have had more conversations like this than actual magnetic successful connections. .

But. .the major difference between ( for example) me and OP is that I would conclude the following;

- she isn't that interested...
- nor is she that interesting
- I'm chasing /wanting it more than her
- I look for validation among my peers on the forum
- I need to use my leverage more
- eventually I gotta let her go
-I CANT keep getting the same results. Time to change up my method operandi


OP, you ask whether you should be a @sshole? Imo you ask if you should mirror her behaviour as she is b1tchy and dry. And here's my anwer;
No ,you ain't that guy. You're not a badboy.

But what do you have?
You have the most valuable assests. Time and money. When it comes to those you are MILES ahead of me...the conundrum of life huh...when yiu was building up wealth I was seeking validation from the streets and from love . I might've slept with some women,but it got me nowhere...

You should dangle those asests( time and money) in the faces of these women just to see how it goes..
Thanks for the reality check man...we all can't have everything and there's pros and cons to everything in life. Honestly I've been talking to a few girls back home in the states for when I come back on the 14th of next month of October. Just in time for Halloween and to meet several cute women off those costume parties lol.

But Do I have money to take care of myself? Yes, about 80k a year on average, I don't have to work if I want to and I'm looking for ways to invest my money and of course give back to charity. I really want to stretch my dollar by living abroad and really thinking about raising a family abroad as well. Places like here in The Philippines, Thailand, Indonesia, Japan, Malaysia, are places I'd like to check out.
 

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Thanks for the reality check man...we all can't have everything and there's pros and cons to everything in life. Honestly I've been talking to a few girls back home in the states for when I come back on the 14th of next month of October. Just in time for Halloween and to meet several cute women off those costume parties lol.

But Do I have money to take care of myself? Yes, about 80k a year on average, I don't have to work if I want to and I'm looking for ways to invest my money and of course give back to charity. I really want to stretch my dollar by living abroad and really thinking about raising a family abroad as well. Places like here in The Philippines, Thailand, Indonesia, Japan, Malaysia, are places I'd like to check out.
Now, the second paragraph is some gangsta shyte lol. But that will go over most heads...

What you need is a successful formula. You already got the volume of new women. So its quite ironic how yes ,they match with you ,talk ti you but ,no they won't give you their best versions.

Let me tell you something bro..if you want love from womem you gotta stop wanting love from women..

You might come across to eager to " start a family ". Imagine this from the opposite side; a woman clearly wants a family ect. I might be turned off as its quite the commitment to make.. maybe I rather have some fun now and "explore what's out there" ( to use a typical sentence that those women say) .


You should mainly focus on FUN, SEX , and building some BEAUTIFUL MEMORIES. That's it. The woman should want babies from you ,not the other way around!!!
 

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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Mi Shie is highly interested. She is making it easy and wants sex on the first date. Its up to you to make things happen.
 

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Talking to someone more local and way more feminine….With this one, I don’t even have to try lol

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How do you feel about that TM? The 'you not having to try or make effort'? Good, bad, indifferent? You said the other was more feminine which is why I ask.

I must say she is bold and obviously confident but also sounds sweet natured and to me feminine in spirit and YES she definitely wants your pipe! Lol :p

How did the rest of the convo go? Are you gonna hook up?
 
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