"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Do I have to be an @sshole and ‘bad boy’ with this chick?

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BPH, Duke….Listen I’m currently here in South East Asia and I have no problems, attracting women just by being myself here. But I’m talking to that Western Latina secretary also by text. Do I have to be an @sshole with this one? What do you guys think?

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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Most of your text conversations go like this one. I don't see much investment on the girls end. It's you asking basic questions about daily life. There's not much intriguing or captivating about it. It's pretty surface. Does she reach out to you if you don't text her for a few days?

I'd of taken that checkpoint question any got some mileage out of that and turned it sexual/funny. Ask her if they found her vibrator in her bag? If she got strip searched, etc. Tell her you are going to have her extradited to the Philippines for the weekend and she won't need to pack many clothes.
 
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Spike it up. Make her feel things. The last thing she wants is to participate in a boring chat. You've been chatting for months and this is your dynamic? You are currently being used for attention, and placed in the "harmless nice guy / g4y friend" category.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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why are you interested (for now) in the remote girl when you have abundance within walking distance ??
 

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OP if she's on a road trip say how much you love taking them in a convertible with the top down and your shirt off. Get her brain out of boring mode. Don't talk about how exciting airport are, because they're not.
 

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BPH, Duke….Listen I’m currently here in South East Asia and I have no problems, attracting women just by being myself here. But I’m talking to that Western Latina secretary also by text. Do I have to be an @sshole with this one? What do you guys think?

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So what's holding you back from expressing yourself? Answering that question is going to be the key to solving this puzzle.

You'll be more desirable to women when you express yourself more openly and effectively than this.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Most of your text conversations go like this one. I don't see much investment on the girls end. It's you asking basic questions about daily life. There's not much intriguing or captivating about it. It's pretty surface. Does she reach out to you if you don't text her for a few days?

I'd of taken that checkpoint question any got some mileage out of that and turned it sexual/funny. Ask her if they found her vibrator in her bag? If she got strip searched, etc. Tell her you are going to have her extradited to the Philippines for the weekend and she won't need to pack many clothes.
THIS!!

If OP REALLY wants to improve he'd answer this thoroughly

And dont get me wrong; I'd say most men (including me) probably have had more conversations like this than actual magnetic successful connections. .

But. .the major difference between ( for example) me and OP is that I would conclude the following;

- she isn't that interested...
- nor is she that interesting
- I'm chasing /wanting it more than her
- I look for validation among my peers on the forum
- I need to use my leverage more
- eventually I gotta let her go
-I CANT keep getting the same results. Time to change up my method operandi


OP, you ask whether you should be a @sshole? Imo you ask if you should mirror her behaviour as she is b1tchy and dry. And here's my anwer;
No ,you ain't that guy. You're not a badboy.

But what do you have?
You have the most valuable assests. Time and money. When it comes to those you are MILES ahead of me...the conundrum of life huh...when yiu was building up wealth I was seeking validation from the streets and from love . I might've slept with some women,but it got me nowhere...

You should dangle those asests( time and money) in the faces of these women just to see how it goes..
 

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THIS!!

If OP REALLY wants to improve he'd answer this thoroughly

And dont get me wrong; I'd say most men (including me) probably have had more conversations like this than actual magnetic successful connections. .

But. .the major difference between ( for example) me and OP is that I would conclude the following;

- she isn't that interested...
- nor is she that interesting
- I'm chasing /wanting it more than her
- I look for validation among my peers on the forum
- I need to use my leverage more
- eventually I gotta let her go
-I CANT keep getting the same results. Time to change up my method operandi


OP, you ask whether you should be a @sshole? Imo you ask if you should mirror her behaviour as she is b1tchy and dry. And here's my anwer;
No ,you ain't that guy. You're not a badboy.

But what do you have?
You have the most valuable assests. Time and money. When it comes to those you are MILES ahead of me...the conundrum of life huh...when yiu was building up wealth I was seeking validation from the streets and from love . I might've slept with some women,but it got me nowhere...

You should dangle those asests( time and money) in the faces of these women just to see how it goes..
Thanks for the reality check man...we all can't have everything and there's pros and cons to everything in life. Honestly I've been talking to a few girls back home in the states for when I come back on the 14th of next month of October. Just in time for Halloween and to meet several cute women off those costume parties lol.

But Do I have money to take care of myself? Yes, about 80k a year on average, I don't have to work if I want to and I'm looking for ways to invest my money and of course give back to charity. I really want to stretch my dollar by living abroad and really thinking about raising a family abroad as well. Places like here in The Philippines, Thailand, Indonesia, Japan, Malaysia, are places I'd like to check out.
 

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Thanks for the reality check man...we all can't have everything and there's pros and cons to everything in life. Honestly I've been talking to a few girls back home in the states for when I come back on the 14th of next month of October. Just in time for Halloween and to meet several cute women off those costume parties lol.

But Do I have money to take care of myself? Yes, about 80k a year on average, I don't have to work if I want to and I'm looking for ways to invest my money and of course give back to charity. I really want to stretch my dollar by living abroad and really thinking about raising a family abroad as well. Places like here in The Philippines, Thailand, Indonesia, Japan, Malaysia, are places I'd like to check out.
Now, the second paragraph is some gangsta shyte lol. But that will go over most heads...

What you need is a successful formula. You already got the volume of new women. So its quite ironic how yes ,they match with you ,talk ti you but ,no they won't give you their best versions.

Let me tell you something bro..if you want love from womem you gotta stop wanting love from women..

You might come across to eager to " start a family ". Imagine this from the opposite side; a woman clearly wants a family ect. I might be turned off as its quite the commitment to make.. maybe I rather have some fun now and "explore what's out there" ( to use a typical sentence that those women say) .


You should mainly focus on FUN, SEX , and building some BEAUTIFUL MEMORIES. That's it. The woman should want babies from you ,not the other way around!!!
 

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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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