Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
BPH, Duke….Listen I’m currently here in South East Asia and I have no problems, attracting women just by being myself here. But I’m talking to that Western Latina secretary also by text. Do I have to be an @sshole with this one? What do you guys think?
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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
OP should realize he has nothing to lose and try and run some non-asexual gameYou aren't going to fvck her, so what does it really matter what you do?
So what's holding you back from expressing yourself? Answering that question is going to be the key to solving this puzzle.BPH, Duke….Listen I’m currently here in South East Asia and I have no problems, attracting women just by being myself here. But I’m talking to that Western Latina secretary also by text. Do I have to be an @sshole with this one? What do you guys think?
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Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
THIS!!Most of your text conversations go like this one. I don't see much investment on the girls end. It's you asking basic questions about daily life. There's not much intriguing or captivating about it. It's pretty surface. Does she reach out to you if you don't text her for a few days?
I'd of taken that checkpoint question any got some mileage out of that and turned it sexual/funny. Ask her if they found her vibrator in her bag? If she got strip searched, etc. Tell her you are going to have her extradited to the Philippines for the weekend and she won't need to pack many clothes.
Thanks for the reality check man...we all can't have everything and there's pros and cons to everything in life. Honestly I've been talking to a few girls back home in the states for when I come back on the 14th of next month of October. Just in time for Halloween and to meet several cute women off those costume parties lol.THIS!!
If OP REALLY wants to improve he'd answer this thoroughly
And dont get me wrong; I'd say most men (including me) probably have had more conversations like this than actual magnetic successful connections. .
But. .the major difference between ( for example) me and OP is that I would conclude the following;
- she isn't that interested...
- nor is she that interesting
- I'm chasing /wanting it more than her
- I look for validation among my peers on the forum
- I need to use my leverage more
- eventually I gotta let her go
-I CANT keep getting the same results. Time to change up my method operandi
OP, you ask whether you should be a @sshole? Imo you ask if you should mirror her behaviour as she is b1tchy and dry. And here's my anwer;
No ,you ain't that guy. You're not a badboy.
But what do you have?
You have the most valuable assests. Time and money. When it comes to those you are MILES ahead of me...the conundrum of life huh...when yiu was building up wealth I was seeking validation from the streets and from love . I might've slept with some women,but it got me nowhere...
You should dangle those asests( time and money) in the faces of these women just to see how it goes..
Now, the second paragraph is some gangsta shyte lol. But that will go over most heads...Thanks for the reality check man...we all can't have everything and there's pros and cons to everything in life. Honestly I've been talking to a few girls back home in the states for when I come back on the 14th of next month of October. Just in time for Halloween and to meet several cute women off those costume parties lol.
But Do I have money to take care of myself? Yes, about 80k a year on average, I don't have to work if I want to and I'm looking for ways to invest my money and of course give back to charity. I really want to stretch my dollar by living abroad and really thinking about raising a family abroad as well. Places like here in The Philippines, Thailand, Indonesia, Japan, Malaysia, are places I'd like to check out.