whiskerbiskit
Don Juan
from a dj's perspective what is the consensus? worth it? if yes, what are the relevant tips.
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"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Dating sites
- Thread starter whiskerbiskit
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
foomee
Senior Don Juan
Not many sites are worth the effort, there's a few, but then it also really depends on where you're located. It says you're from Seattle so you may have a lot of luck, however for others in small cities they don't find much. Craigslist and Myspace work just as well, but stay away from sites like eharmony or match.com. A friend of mine found his girlfriend from yahoo personals and I've heard good things from plentyoffish.com
CoolRunning
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I've actually had decent luck with match.com. The girls there are generally older, but since I am 27 myself, it's not a big deal. As long as you have a cool profile and good pics, it's ridiculously easily to set up a date. Then you take it from there. Now, I'm still a rank beginner, so I have trouble with that step......but if you can get her to meet you and you are good, it's pretty much in the bag right?
isoman2kx
Don Juan
plentyoffish = plenty of uggs lol
seriously, there's maybe 1 attractive chick for every 10 ugs on there.... not wort h it at all.
yahoo personals is alright, but to get anywhere ya gotta pay with that.
myspace/facebook's probably the best free bet if you're 21 and under.
seriously, there's maybe 1 attractive chick for every 10 ugs on there.... not wort h it at all.
yahoo personals is alright, but to get anywhere ya gotta pay with that.
myspace/facebook's probably the best free bet if you're 21 and under.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Don't expect much from free sites. People who are serious will pay to be on a structured site that has other serious daters. Ask yourself, who would be more serious in meeting you, a woman who hasn't done anything but post a picture on a free site or a woman who posted a picture, wrote a concise profile and pay something between $100-250 a year for the service? It's the difference between MySpace.com and Match.com.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Vulpine
Master Don Juan
If you are in a rural or small town, don't even bother unless you plan on having a range of at least 100 miles. Once you hit on the 5 or 6 you find worthy, that's it. The pool isn't large enough to pay for.
My Name is Nobody
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Dating sites are fun.
spider_007
Master Don Juan
not worth the effort.
they are jus there for attention......they get 10 emails a day, and won't even read all the way through unless, you got picture with you half naked with a "six pack"
they are jus there for attention......they get 10 emails a day, and won't even read all the way through unless, you got picture with you half naked with a "six pack"
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spider_007 said:
So then why have I gotten laid 3 times off match? I got no sixpack. Not even a 2 pack.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Those who can, do; those who can't, preach....My Name is Nobody said:
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
spider_007
Master Don Juan
hell, i don't know.....i went on "plenty of fish"....posted a decen genuine profile, and couple of decent pictures......and i couldn't even get the UGs to respond.My Name is Nobody said:
from personal experience; online daing isn't worth the effort.
hell, if you got some advice on how you managed that, please share!!!!
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
You need to:spider_007 said:
- Understand your product
- Understand the market
- Determine your target customers
- Market toward your target customers
spider_007
Master Don Juan
the market is in a recession.:moon:
and i wasn't even going for the hot once....just the normal 5s
and i wasn't even going for the hot once....just the normal 5s
thirtyplus
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That's a big part of the problem right there....spider_007 said:
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
My Name is Nobody
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What does your first email to the woman look like?
spider_007
Master Don Juan
DAMN IT Francisco d'Anconia ARE YOU TRYING TO TEACH ME A LESSON HERE?????
i log on to check my profile (which i guess it bumped it up)
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member3555134.htm
and i get an email back;
A bunch of egotistical fatties..not all of us
and yes a lot of people have lost that genuinity, but there are a few of us left.
Jennifer
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Oh crap......i'd bet money if i replyed, she wouldn't reply back.:moon:
i log on to check my profile (which i guess it bumped it up)
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member3555134.htm
and i get an email back;
A bunch of egotistical fatties..not all of us
and yes a lot of people have lost that genuinity, but there are a few of us left.
Jennifer
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Oh crap......i'd bet money if i replyed, she wouldn't reply back.:moon:
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Here's another issue.My Name is Nobody said:
You should search the forum. There's been quite a few detailed threads about sarging online.
My Name is Nobody
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In the online dating game it's every man for himself. Way too much competition so I can't reveal any secrets. At least until I get some.