whiskerbiskit
Don Juan
from a dj's perspective what is the consensus? worth it? if yes, what are the relevant tips.
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Dating sites
- Thread starter whiskerbiskit
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
foomee
Senior Don Juan
Not many sites are worth the effort, there's a few, but then it also really depends on where you're located. It says you're from Seattle so you may have a lot of luck, however for others in small cities they don't find much. Craigslist and Myspace work just as well, but stay away from sites like eharmony or match.com. A friend of mine found his girlfriend from yahoo personals and I've heard good things from plentyoffish.com
CoolRunning
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I've actually had decent luck with match.com. The girls there are generally older, but since I am 27 myself, it's not a big deal. As long as you have a cool profile and good pics, it's ridiculously easily to set up a date. Then you take it from there. Now, I'm still a rank beginner, so I have trouble with that step......but if you can get her to meet you and you are good, it's pretty much in the bag right?
isoman2kx
Don Juan
plentyoffish = plenty of uggs lol
seriously, there's maybe 1 attractive chick for every 10 ugs on there.... not wort h it at all.
yahoo personals is alright, but to get anywhere ya gotta pay with that.
myspace/facebook's probably the best free bet if you're 21 and under.
seriously, there's maybe 1 attractive chick for every 10 ugs on there.... not wort h it at all.
yahoo personals is alright, but to get anywhere ya gotta pay with that.
myspace/facebook's probably the best free bet if you're 21 and under.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Don't expect much from free sites. People who are serious will pay to be on a structured site that has other serious daters. Ask yourself, who would be more serious in meeting you, a woman who hasn't done anything but post a picture on a free site or a woman who posted a picture, wrote a concise profile and pay something between $100-250 a year for the service? It's the difference between MySpace.com and Match.com.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Vulpine
Master Don Juan
If you are in a rural or small town, don't even bother unless you plan on having a range of at least 100 miles. Once you hit on the 5 or 6 you find worthy, that's it. The pool isn't large enough to pay for.
My Name is Nobody
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Dating sites are fun.
spider_007
Master Don Juan
not worth the effort.
they are jus there for attention......they get 10 emails a day, and won't even read all the way through unless, you got picture with you half naked with a "six pack"
they are jus there for attention......they get 10 emails a day, and won't even read all the way through unless, you got picture with you half naked with a "six pack"
My Name is Nobody
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spider_007 said:
So then why have I gotten laid 3 times off match? I got no sixpack. Not even a 2 pack.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Those who can, do; those who can't, preach....My Name is Nobody said:
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
spider_007
Master Don Juan
hell, i don't know.....i went on "plenty of fish"....posted a decen genuine profile, and couple of decent pictures......and i couldn't even get the UGs to respond.My Name is Nobody said:
from personal experience; online daing isn't worth the effort.
hell, if you got some advice on how you managed that, please share!!!!
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
You need to:spider_007 said:
- Understand your product
- Understand the market
- Determine your target customers
- Market toward your target customers
spider_007
Master Don Juan
the market is in a recession.:moon:
and i wasn't even going for the hot once....just the normal 5s
and i wasn't even going for the hot once....just the normal 5s
thirtyplus
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That's a big part of the problem right there....spider_007 said:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
My Name is Nobody
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What does your first email to the woman look like?
spider_007
Master Don Juan
DAMN IT Francisco d'Anconia ARE YOU TRYING TO TEACH ME A LESSON HERE?????
i log on to check my profile (which i guess it bumped it up)
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member3555134.htm
and i get an email back;
A bunch of egotistical fatties..not all of us
and yes a lot of people have lost that genuinity, but there are a few of us left.
Jennifer
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Oh crap......i'd bet money if i replyed, she wouldn't reply back.:moon:
i log on to check my profile (which i guess it bumped it up)
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member3555134.htm
and i get an email back;
A bunch of egotistical fatties..not all of us
and yes a lot of people have lost that genuinity, but there are a few of us left.
Jennifer
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Oh crap......i'd bet money if i replyed, she wouldn't reply back.:moon:
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Here's another issue.My Name is Nobody said:
You should search the forum. There's been quite a few detailed threads about sarging online.
My Name is Nobody
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In the online dating game it's every man for himself. Way too much competition so I can't reveal any secrets. At least until I get some.