Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Burn a few calories by getting that machine together.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Got him coming out on Monday 10am. I need muscle by summer.
How's it arriving? Turtle or carrier pigeon? I never seen exercise equipment take so long to arrive. Is it being pushed over here from China?
No, I have had the gym since Jan 6th. Remember, the pulley was broke? The installer noticed one of the pulleys was broke. He got some of it put together. I contacted ICON fitness and the part was on back order for weeks. Yes, a plastic pulley. So last week I finally got the part in. If that part was not broke I would have been lifting for a month now and getting some muscle. So I got delayed a month and a half. As you can see my chest is pretty flat. I just at least want some arm muscle so I look fuller and not as skinny but still have the slim chest until I get the abs built up.
How would you get fat when you run 5 miles a day? This is the second time you've said something that doesn't add up to the stories you tell us.... I'm on to you
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
How many people live in your town?
County is about 250k but during season it's probably 320k due to snowbirds.
I've heard of Weider, NordicTrack, Peloton, Marcy and Gold's. I've never heard of ICON Fitness. Why do you buy crap? All you need is steel. Nothing fancy. STEEL.
ICON owns the Golds Gym brand and name. Look it up and provides the service. So you mean if I quit going on OLD 3 hours a day and looking a the same post wall handfull of women everyday and worked out hardcore I'd be ripped? Yes, go on Match, etc. and for like the last year you see the same handful of post wall women. Even Bumble and Tinder the same chicks keep popping up. It's boring logging on OLD and not seeing new or younger blood.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I can't believe he's had some of you fooled for so long
It was a similar case with guys like bigdave and richardthefrog. It doesn't matter if these guys are trolls or completely helpless/autistic. They're the ones who seem to have the most problems but are too good to change anything, the ones who hijack the threads, and the ones who always NEED the attention but never give back. Yet, many of the guys that keep giving them advice have too good of a heart to just put their foot down and realize "yeah some people truly don't want help". Actions over words right? That should be viewed in general, for everyone, not just for women.
I feel like I’m barely entering my prime so I appreciate that bro
He's not an idiot, he's autistic / Aspergers. It's one of the reasons some of us try to help him. Though, I think most of us are tired of the runaround.
I mean is that legit or are we going off of tendency? Because if that is medically diagnosed I take back what I said.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Still its a waste of time imo, it was same with Bigdave.
He was arguing his strategy which he refused to adjust.
Yep he is not here to learn but just to complain.
Pretty much as legit as one can be on a forum. He's not a bad guy, just special.
Since we've seen pics of Big Dave and Big Goal, we know they are not the same person. Big Dave was just a narcisist, BigGoal isn't one. Though, he does think he deserves a high caliber lady, when he himself isn't a high caliber dude yet.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.