Thanks i ll read up on that... Yeah clearly something s wrong with me as well for always getting involved with the same type of women. This one just seems different from the others (more self aware of her condition) which makes me want to keep at it even though it's not the sanest thing to do.Advice from the old lady:
Ok. You don’t want to take the obvious advice. Check. My recent ex BF is BPD. I get where you are coming from.
There is a series of Psychology Today articles online that can give you insight. Google “Borderline Provacations I”. Roman numeral 1 or part 1. There are parts 1-7. Read them in sequence. The author is a man & his perspective is interesting.
There are ways to mitigate the crazy making behavior but it requires tremendous self awareness and self control. It does get easier as you learn, but you have to look at yourself to see what of your own pathos is driving the behavior. Something in your psyche is drawn to this dynamic.
Look within & sort out what that is.