MatureDJ
Master Don Juan
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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Sure but, again, the desire to want to be "more attractive to WOMENZ" is the feminine imperative ironically enough.its called pre-selection. its talked about constantly
does anyone pay attention here?
I think, generally, and with some exceptions, that women are most attracted to the bad boy player type when they are at an age and/or stage in their life where they are not interested in settling down and like relationship drama.The article says "men receive an “attractiveness boost” from women when they’re in a committed relationship".
I just want to point out that a lot of guys here say that a man being willing to commit is considered a beta, unattractive thing by females. That women only find men who refuse to commit attractive.
Obviously that is not true.
The article says "men receive an “attractiveness boost” from women when they’re in a committed relationship".
I just want to point out that a lot of guys here say that a man being willing to commit is considered a beta, unattractive thing by females. That women only find men who refuse to commit attractive.
Obviously that is not true.
Being taken, looking confident and knowing you get treated like a king yes you will receive an attractiveness boost.I think, generally, and with some exceptions, that women are most attracted to the bad boy player type when they are at an age and/or stage in their life where they are not interested in settling down and like relationship drama.
When that stage passes (or if, in some cases) they are attracted to guys who are interested in settling down. When they see that a nice looking guy is married, it's attractive to them because they see a nice looking guy who decided to get married rather than be a f**k boy when he probably could of been a very successful f**k boy lol. Good looking men who commit are seen as very attractive to women.
There's also age/ biological clock ticking/ maturity and not wanting to compete with younger girls just to be some guy's plate.
I think that, eventually, many men and women get tired of the serial dating or hook ups and just want one decent person to share life with, with no crazy drama.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Lol on the stock example!Its not about being taken, its about being accepted from a woman.
If you are engaged with the town wh0re who ruined herself with meths, you surely are not gonna score extra points.
If you are engaged with a young pretty sane girl then your value is doubled at their eyes.
I experienced a great boost attending parties with hot girls, when I was one of the many I turned into one of the hot guys the same moment a cutie grabbed my arm and kissed me.
Women generally have a very low individuality outside clothes and being a prima donna, their decisions when it comes of settling are largely influnced from culture and the peer groups.
Thats why no woman ever bought a cheap stock that became gold few months later, they simply dont see any potential in something unless it fits certain general criteria.
That was an article in playboy, aimed at who knows who. Maybe a lame writer struggling of a dying magazine struggling for some kind of angle.does anyone pay attention here?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Actually, it's called disqualification.its called pre-selection. its talked about constantly
does anyone pay attention here?
Pre-selection includes disqualification.Actually, it's called disqualification.
There are few if any absolutesThe article says "men receive an “attractiveness boost” from women when they’re in a committed relationship".
I just want to point out that a lot of guys here say that a man being willing to commit is considered a beta, unattractive thing by females. That women only find men who refuse to commit attractive.
Obviously that is not true.
You've really never read anything along these lines?:once again, i have to stop you. NO ONE EVER said that
I agree, I am very distrusting of absolutes. Unfortunately, PUA writers have a tendency to phrase things in absolute terms.There are few if any absolutes
True.I think that, eventually, many men and women get tired of the serial dating or hook ups and just want one decent person to share life with, with no crazy drama.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.