MatureDJ
Master Don Juan
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You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Sure but, again, the desire to want to be "more attractive to WOMENZ" is the feminine imperative ironically enough.its called pre-selection. its talked about constantly
does anyone pay attention here?
I think, generally, and with some exceptions, that women are most attracted to the bad boy player type when they are at an age and/or stage in their life where they are not interested in settling down and like relationship drama.The article says "men receive an “attractiveness boost” from women when they’re in a committed relationship".
I just want to point out that a lot of guys here say that a man being willing to commit is considered a beta, unattractive thing by females. That women only find men who refuse to commit attractive.
Obviously that is not true.
The article says "men receive an “attractiveness boost” from women when they’re in a committed relationship".
I just want to point out that a lot of guys here say that a man being willing to commit is considered a beta, unattractive thing by females. That women only find men who refuse to commit attractive.
Obviously that is not true.
Being taken, looking confident and knowing you get treated like a king yes you will receive an attractiveness boost.I think, generally, and with some exceptions, that women are most attracted to the bad boy player type when they are at an age and/or stage in their life where they are not interested in settling down and like relationship drama.
When that stage passes (or if, in some cases) they are attracted to guys who are interested in settling down. When they see that a nice looking guy is married, it's attractive to them because they see a nice looking guy who decided to get married rather than be a f**k boy when he probably could of been a very successful f**k boy lol. Good looking men who commit are seen as very attractive to women.
There's also age/ biological clock ticking/ maturity and not wanting to compete with younger girls just to be some guy's plate.
I think that, eventually, many men and women get tired of the serial dating or hook ups and just want one decent person to share life with, with no crazy drama.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Lol on the stock example!Its not about being taken, its about being accepted from a woman.
If you are engaged with the town wh0re who ruined herself with meths, you surely are not gonna score extra points.
If you are engaged with a young pretty sane girl then your value is doubled at their eyes.
I experienced a great boost attending parties with hot girls, when I was one of the many I turned into one of the hot guys the same moment a cutie grabbed my arm and kissed me.
Women generally have a very low individuality outside clothes and being a prima donna, their decisions when it comes of settling are largely influnced from culture and the peer groups.
Thats why no woman ever bought a cheap stock that became gold few months later, they simply dont see any potential in something unless it fits certain general criteria.
That was an article in playboy, aimed at who knows who. Maybe a lame writer struggling of a dying magazine struggling for some kind of angle.does anyone pay attention here?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Actually, it's called disqualification.its called pre-selection. its talked about constantly
does anyone pay attention here?
Pre-selection includes disqualification.Actually, it's called disqualification.
There are few if any absolutesThe article says "men receive an “attractiveness boost” from women when they’re in a committed relationship".
I just want to point out that a lot of guys here say that a man being willing to commit is considered a beta, unattractive thing by females. That women only find men who refuse to commit attractive.
Obviously that is not true.
You've really never read anything along these lines?:once again, i have to stop you. NO ONE EVER said that
I agree, I am very distrusting of absolutes. Unfortunately, PUA writers have a tendency to phrase things in absolute terms.There are few if any absolutes
True.I think that, eventually, many men and women get tired of the serial dating or hook ups and just want one decent person to share life with, with no crazy drama.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.