MatureDJ
Master Don Juan
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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Sure but, again, the desire to want to be "more attractive to WOMENZ" is the feminine imperative ironically enough.its called pre-selection. its talked about constantly
does anyone pay attention here?
I think, generally, and with some exceptions, that women are most attracted to the bad boy player type when they are at an age and/or stage in their life where they are not interested in settling down and like relationship drama.The article says "men receive an “attractiveness boost” from women when they’re in a committed relationship".
I just want to point out that a lot of guys here say that a man being willing to commit is considered a beta, unattractive thing by females. That women only find men who refuse to commit attractive.
Obviously that is not true.
The article says "men receive an “attractiveness boost” from women when they’re in a committed relationship".
I just want to point out that a lot of guys here say that a man being willing to commit is considered a beta, unattractive thing by females. That women only find men who refuse to commit attractive.
Obviously that is not true.
Being taken, looking confident and knowing you get treated like a king yes you will receive an attractiveness boost.I think, generally, and with some exceptions, that women are most attracted to the bad boy player type when they are at an age and/or stage in their life where they are not interested in settling down and like relationship drama.
When that stage passes (or if, in some cases) they are attracted to guys who are interested in settling down. When they see that a nice looking guy is married, it's attractive to them because they see a nice looking guy who decided to get married rather than be a f**k boy when he probably could of been a very successful f**k boy lol. Good looking men who commit are seen as very attractive to women.
There's also age/ biological clock ticking/ maturity and not wanting to compete with younger girls just to be some guy's plate.
I think that, eventually, many men and women get tired of the serial dating or hook ups and just want one decent person to share life with, with no crazy drama.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Lol on the stock example!Its not about being taken, its about being accepted from a woman.
If you are engaged with the town wh0re who ruined herself with meths, you surely are not gonna score extra points.
If you are engaged with a young pretty sane girl then your value is doubled at their eyes.
I experienced a great boost attending parties with hot girls, when I was one of the many I turned into one of the hot guys the same moment a cutie grabbed my arm and kissed me.
Women generally have a very low individuality outside clothes and being a prima donna, their decisions when it comes of settling are largely influnced from culture and the peer groups.
Thats why no woman ever bought a cheap stock that became gold few months later, they simply dont see any potential in something unless it fits certain general criteria.
That was an article in playboy, aimed at who knows who. Maybe a lame writer struggling of a dying magazine struggling for some kind of angle.does anyone pay attention here?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Actually, it's called disqualification.its called pre-selection. its talked about constantly
does anyone pay attention here?
Pre-selection includes disqualification.Actually, it's called disqualification.
There are few if any absolutesThe article says "men receive an “attractiveness boost” from women when they’re in a committed relationship".
I just want to point out that a lot of guys here say that a man being willing to commit is considered a beta, unattractive thing by females. That women only find men who refuse to commit attractive.
Obviously that is not true.
You've really never read anything along these lines?:once again, i have to stop you. NO ONE EVER said that
I agree, I am very distrusting of absolutes. Unfortunately, PUA writers have a tendency to phrase things in absolute terms.There are few if any absolutes
True.I think that, eventually, many men and women get tired of the serial dating or hook ups and just want one decent person to share life with, with no crazy drama.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.