MatureDJ
Master Don Juan
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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Sure but, again, the desire to want to be "more attractive to WOMENZ" is the feminine imperative ironically enough.its called pre-selection. its talked about constantly
does anyone pay attention here?
I think, generally, and with some exceptions, that women are most attracted to the bad boy player type when they are at an age and/or stage in their life where they are not interested in settling down and like relationship drama.The article says "men receive an “attractiveness boost” from women when they’re in a committed relationship".
I just want to point out that a lot of guys here say that a man being willing to commit is considered a beta, unattractive thing by females. That women only find men who refuse to commit attractive.
Obviously that is not true.
The article says "men receive an “attractiveness boost” from women when they’re in a committed relationship".
I just want to point out that a lot of guys here say that a man being willing to commit is considered a beta, unattractive thing by females. That women only find men who refuse to commit attractive.
Obviously that is not true.
Being taken, looking confident and knowing you get treated like a king yes you will receive an attractiveness boost.I think, generally, and with some exceptions, that women are most attracted to the bad boy player type when they are at an age and/or stage in their life where they are not interested in settling down and like relationship drama.
When that stage passes (or if, in some cases) they are attracted to guys who are interested in settling down. When they see that a nice looking guy is married, it's attractive to them because they see a nice looking guy who decided to get married rather than be a f**k boy when he probably could of been a very successful f**k boy lol. Good looking men who commit are seen as very attractive to women.
There's also age/ biological clock ticking/ maturity and not wanting to compete with younger girls just to be some guy's plate.
I think that, eventually, many men and women get tired of the serial dating or hook ups and just want one decent person to share life with, with no crazy drama.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Lol on the stock example!Its not about being taken, its about being accepted from a woman.
If you are engaged with the town wh0re who ruined herself with meths, you surely are not gonna score extra points.
If you are engaged with a young pretty sane girl then your value is doubled at their eyes.
I experienced a great boost attending parties with hot girls, when I was one of the many I turned into one of the hot guys the same moment a cutie grabbed my arm and kissed me.
Women generally have a very low individuality outside clothes and being a prima donna, their decisions when it comes of settling are largely influnced from culture and the peer groups.
Thats why no woman ever bought a cheap stock that became gold few months later, they simply dont see any potential in something unless it fits certain general criteria.
That was an article in playboy, aimed at who knows who. Maybe a lame writer struggling of a dying magazine struggling for some kind of angle.does anyone pay attention here?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Actually, it's called disqualification.its called pre-selection. its talked about constantly
does anyone pay attention here?
Pre-selection includes disqualification.Actually, it's called disqualification.
There are few if any absolutesThe article says "men receive an “attractiveness boost” from women when they’re in a committed relationship".
I just want to point out that a lot of guys here say that a man being willing to commit is considered a beta, unattractive thing by females. That women only find men who refuse to commit attractive.
Obviously that is not true.
You've really never read anything along these lines?:once again, i have to stop you. NO ONE EVER said that
I agree, I am very distrusting of absolutes. Unfortunately, PUA writers have a tendency to phrase things in absolute terms.There are few if any absolutes
True.I think that, eventually, many men and women get tired of the serial dating or hook ups and just want one decent person to share life with, with no crazy drama.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.