Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
They are if you want them to be... its all about what makes you feel better,,, and if you can make your marriage last until death do you part then congrats.canadianmetalhead said:" hence the 80% divorce rate and 99% infidelity rates"
ya...those figures are false.
"You don't have to believe me but you will believe your life." - TruthTeller65canadianmetalhead said:haha ok dude, lets see where you got a 99% figure from then. seriously, post a link lets see and i will believe you
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
This is what I want out of a relationship. A cool chick who likes to have fun because I'm all about having fun in life. It is definitely fun to have someone else to share experiences with.Snow Plowman said:Coming from a guy who would never get married, a relationship is actually worth it.
All a relationship is, is a shared experience and shared reality of two people. The energy build up process is even more intense.
It's only recently that I realized how fun a relationship can be.
The thing that makes relationships seem bad is because AFCs go in for needy reasons. Do you honestly think if your a cool guy who knows how to excite women, that she'll leave you for some AFC?
There is a chick with a BF who wants me to fuk her silly. This chick is into me a whole lot but I try not to move it forward.
While learning this I had a chick who was a MLTR. For two years we were together. One of the best relationships
- She wanted to take me to two cruises
- She wanted to take me to puerto rico
- She wanted to share an apt together
- She always was showing her sexual side
- We always have a great vibe
- Insane shared experiences...been to a amusement park, club, many food places.
Relationships are fun but if your an AFC it might not be worth it. I think I've had some of the best relationships even though people around me have had more relationships than me.
Me too... its sad..=(demonic said:I'm not bothering with relationships as their just is'nt any nice,geniune girls around....so all i do is have ons and fbuddies
DonGorgon said:Me too... its sad..=(
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I like this definitionSnow Plowman said:All a relationship is, is a shared experience and shared reality of two people.
Studies have shown that people in long term loving relationships tend to be healthier, happier and live longer than those who aren't.lookyoung said:I think that a guy who has the right girl behind him is a happier guy than a guy who is single. Very few men meet that girl, But for the ones that do I would say its a good thing.
Gee...sounds like a regular fairytale. :crazy:demonic said:I'm not bothering with relationships as their just is'nt any nice,geniune girls around....so all i do is have ons and fbuddies
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.