Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
They are if you want them to be... its all about what makes you feel better,,, and if you can make your marriage last until death do you part then congrats.canadianmetalhead said:" hence the 80% divorce rate and 99% infidelity rates"
ya...those figures are false.
"You don't have to believe me but you will believe your life." - TruthTeller65canadianmetalhead said:haha ok dude, lets see where you got a 99% figure from then. seriously, post a link lets see and i will believe you
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
This is what I want out of a relationship. A cool chick who likes to have fun because I'm all about having fun in life. It is definitely fun to have someone else to share experiences with.Snow Plowman said:Coming from a guy who would never get married, a relationship is actually worth it.
All a relationship is, is a shared experience and shared reality of two people. The energy build up process is even more intense.
It's only recently that I realized how fun a relationship can be.
The thing that makes relationships seem bad is because AFCs go in for needy reasons. Do you honestly think if your a cool guy who knows how to excite women, that she'll leave you for some AFC?
There is a chick with a BF who wants me to fuk her silly. This chick is into me a whole lot but I try not to move it forward.
While learning this I had a chick who was a MLTR. For two years we were together. One of the best relationships
- She wanted to take me to two cruises
- She wanted to take me to puerto rico
- She wanted to share an apt together
- She always was showing her sexual side
- We always have a great vibe
- Insane shared experiences...been to a amusement park, club, many food places.
Relationships are fun but if your an AFC it might not be worth it. I think I've had some of the best relationships even though people around me have had more relationships than me.
Me too... its sad..=(demonic said:I'm not bothering with relationships as their just is'nt any nice,geniune girls around....so all i do is have ons and fbuddies
DonGorgon said:Me too... its sad..=(
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I like this definitionSnow Plowman said:All a relationship is, is a shared experience and shared reality of two people.
Studies have shown that people in long term loving relationships tend to be healthier, happier and live longer than those who aren't.lookyoung said:I think that a guy who has the right girl behind him is a happier guy than a guy who is single. Very few men meet that girl, But for the ones that do I would say its a good thing.
Gee...sounds like a regular fairytale. :crazy:demonic said:I'm not bothering with relationships as their just is'nt any nice,geniune girls around....so all i do is have ons and fbuddies
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.