"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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That's why if you're 50 and you are in shape with a decent job you should be focusing on women 10 to 15 years younger.
Exactly. Why would a single 50 yo male with any SMV be pursuing women his own age?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Funny, I went to a D III school, but they were good at sports and our football team usually made the playoffs. Seems like the only guys that were scoring were the good-looking soccer, football players and fraternity duded. My one roommate was on the football team, he was a good looking dude and aggressive. He cleaned up in college. I had a few opportunities, but I was timid and you know how that goes.

Most guys in college are broke and don't have enough life experience to be confident. Hence, I think most men struggle in college with women.
Not true. I went to a div 3 school. Regular guys dated. There are only so many sports players. There are many more hb 6.5 and up girls than sports players.

Being it was a low level division school these guys were not your 6 foot 6 basketball players all buffed out.
 

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Don't lie, they won't care. 15 year olds "guess" that I'm 19. They will see what they want to see.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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and how many of those women would be deemed attractive?
Maybe not fat would be another measurement as I'm not elderly and attracted to them. Maybe 20 percent but then factor in all the fat guys too. If you're 60 and not fat and have money especially you're at an advantage
 

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I still get hit on by young girls. College girls still dote on me, and I do my best to avoid going any further with the underage girls who I something run into at the events I go to that are multi age. Having a good face, fit body, dressing well, and just being social just helps at all points.
 

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Funny, I went to a D III school, but they were good at sports and our football team usually made the playoffs. Seems like the only guys that were scoring were the good-looking soccer, football players and fraternity duded. My one roommate was on the football team, he was a good looking dude and aggressive. He cleaned up in college. I had a few opportunities, but I was timid and you know how that goes.

Most guys in college are broke and don't have enough life experience to be confident. Hence, I think most men struggle in college with women.
It isn't "lack of experience" that makes a man or boy unconfident. It's the lifetime of brainwashing, oppression, and emotional abuse they've been through.

Six year old boys all over America right now are being told by their teachers, and feminist single mothers, that their existence is "oppressive" to girls, and need to spend their entire lives apologizing for being born male.
 

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It isn't "lack of experience" that makes a man or boy unconfident. It's the lifetime of brainwashing and oppression they've been through.

Six year old boys all over America right now are being told by their teachers, and feminist single mothers, that their existence is "oppressive" to girls, and need to spend their entire lives apologizing for being born male.
And boy scouts allow girls too now
 

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I have a friend who was over 50 that dated and ended up marrying a girl who was just turning 30. His key was they were both endurance athletes and he was as good or better than she was. Thus they shared an activity together. His age was not an issue.

by the same token she earned her own money and did not expect him to be her bankroll.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Hello Gentlemen,

A little background about myself and situation. I am 47, Great shape (10%BF) Recently broke up with LTR for 3 years (over a month ago she's a 10/10 26YO). Been trying to see what's going on out there and installed some dating apps and wow what a let down, women my age looks downright disgusting.

My question is will age be an issue for younger women of this generation? Is there any other places to you guys can recommend meeting younger women? with my ex I worked with her for 5 years and got to know her real well before we started dating. Ive been out of the game for a while after my divorce(was married for 15 years), but I don't have issues talking to girls.

Almost all my girls have been much younger. As far as where to meet? Anywhere.
 

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Yep. Yet no one sees anything wrong with it and thinks it's cute. But when it's like a 37 year old liking 21 year old girls people make pervy comments about said person and that he's narcissist etc.

But when did this all start? 80 years ago there was nothing wrong with liking women younger than you. Also, 16, 17 year olds were marrying guys older than them as well.
Get some ***** first then you can talk.
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My question is will age be an issue for younger women of this generation? Is there any other places to you guys can recommend meeting younger women? with my ex I worked with her for 5 years and got to know her real well before we started dating. Ive been out of the game for a while after my divorce(was married for 15 years), but I don't have issues talking to girls.
Age is always an issue.

I recommend playing some kind of sport that involves men and women. Volleyball comes to mind. Another place you can meet young women is at college football games.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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D1 College football games? Unless you are sitting near some attractive women, kind of hard to do.
That's why you approach
 

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I went to a Clemson Auburn game by myself a few years back. I thought the fans would be alot friendlier (southern hospitality and all)
I'm guessing you are trying to say that the people there were not as friendly as you expected. I'm I right?

You can't expect people to be nice. The world will beat you down if you let it. You gotta keep going.
 

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Yes exactly. Got to campus at noon and got hammered drinking an IPA from Charleston at some bar.

I was staying 9 miles outside of Clemson since hotels were price gouging. Couldn't get a car or uber for the life of me.

Walked on a highway back towards my hotel for 4 miles in knee high grass until I finally got an uber ride. Good times
How was the weather?
 

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I would love to go to an MSU vs Ole Miss game at Ole Miss.

Expensive endeavor though, due to hotels price gouging.
I would love to go to an MSU vs Ole Miss game at Ole Miss.

Expensive endeavor though, due to hotels price gouging.
There's a lot of other venues as well.

There's always many solutions to each problem, sometimes it pays to think a little differently.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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