She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
BPH, Duke….Listen I’m currently here in South East Asia and I have no problems, attracting women just by being myself here. But I’m talking to that Western Latina secretary also by text. Do I have to be an @sshole with this one? What do you guys think?
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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
OP should realize he has nothing to lose and try and run some non-asexual gameYou aren't going to fvck her, so what does it really matter what you do?
So what's holding you back from expressing yourself? Answering that question is going to be the key to solving this puzzle.BPH, Duke….Listen I’m currently here in South East Asia and I have no problems, attracting women just by being myself here. But I’m talking to that Western Latina secretary also by text. Do I have to be an @sshole with this one? What do you guys think?
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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
THIS!!Most of your text conversations go like this one. I don't see much investment on the girls end. It's you asking basic questions about daily life. There's not much intriguing or captivating about it. It's pretty surface. Does she reach out to you if you don't text her for a few days?
I'd of taken that checkpoint question any got some mileage out of that and turned it sexual/funny. Ask her if they found her vibrator in her bag? If she got strip searched, etc. Tell her you are going to have her extradited to the Philippines for the weekend and she won't need to pack many clothes.
Thanks for the reality check man...we all can't have everything and there's pros and cons to everything in life. Honestly I've been talking to a few girls back home in the states for when I come back on the 14th of next month of October. Just in time for Halloween and to meet several cute women off those costume parties lol.THIS!!
If OP REALLY wants to improve he'd answer this thoroughly
And dont get me wrong; I'd say most men (including me) probably have had more conversations like this than actual magnetic successful connections. .
But. .the major difference between ( for example) me and OP is that I would conclude the following;
- she isn't that interested...
- nor is she that interesting
- I'm chasing /wanting it more than her
- I look for validation among my peers on the forum
- I need to use my leverage more
- eventually I gotta let her go
-I CANT keep getting the same results. Time to change up my method operandi
OP, you ask whether you should be a @sshole? Imo you ask if you should mirror her behaviour as she is b1tchy and dry. And here's my anwer;
No ,you ain't that guy. You're not a badboy.
But what do you have?
You have the most valuable assests. Time and money. When it comes to those you are MILES ahead of me...the conundrum of life huh...when yiu was building up wealth I was seeking validation from the streets and from love . I might've slept with some women,but it got me nowhere...
You should dangle those asests( time and money) in the faces of these women just to see how it goes..
Now, the second paragraph is some gangsta shyte lol. But that will go over most heads...Thanks for the reality check man...we all can't have everything and there's pros and cons to everything in life. Honestly I've been talking to a few girls back home in the states for when I come back on the 14th of next month of October. Just in time for Halloween and to meet several cute women off those costume parties lol.
But Do I have money to take care of myself? Yes, about 80k a year on average, I don't have to work if I want to and I'm looking for ways to invest my money and of course give back to charity. I really want to stretch my dollar by living abroad and really thinking about raising a family abroad as well. Places like here in The Philippines, Thailand, Indonesia, Japan, Malaysia, are places I'd like to check out.
Talking to someone more local and way more feminine….With this one, I don’t even have to try lol
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You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
How do you feel about that TM? The 'you not having to try or make effort'? Good, bad, indifferent? You said the other was more feminine which is why I ask.Talking to someone more local and way more feminine….With this one, I don’t even have to try lol
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I feel somewhat indifferent to this whole dating process out here right now. I have about 100 different women lined up to see me on Tinder out here alone. They vary looks wise, most are around my age. It's great to be able to date, I'm enjoying my time having new options each week. That was not the case in South Texas, it's probably the feminist culture they got out there and evil jerks are the king of short term relationships.How do you feel about that TM? The 'you not having to try or make effort'? Good, bad, indifferent? You said the other was more feminine which is why I ask.
I must say she is bold and obviously confident but also sounds sweet natured and to me feminine in spirit and YES she definitely wants your pipe! Lol
How did the rest of the convo go? Are you gonna hook up?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.