Plinco
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Anyone who pays attention here might know about this thread here
with my frustrations and some confusing input I had to figure this out on my own. Texting guidelines are fantastic, however they don't convey the essence of what and why good communication should be like.
Maybe you've have been conditioned to be ashamed of expressing yourself, or maybe you've trained yourself to think about information practically all of the time, or maybe you're on the autistic spectrum. It doesn't matter. The solution is the same. You've got to train yourself to think and express yourself openly.
One poster suggested that I should stop dancing and talk to old people. Luckily, being the stubborn fool that I am, I ignored him.
What I've observed while dancing, is that the best dancers were also the best communicators.
That's because they've trained themselves to express themselves openly.
When somebody asked me why I cover my head when I'm dancing, I said "Imagine getting in a fight with me on the dance floor." You see, I train Muay Thai, so I have movement habits from both that and dancing. That kind of expression came to me after making up my own dance moves to the beat of the music.
Now if you want to be more technical, there's a more important distinction to make here: surrender vs. integration. These were my moves, not just copying what I think I should do. Ayn Rand rejected the mind/body dichotomy. To surrender yourself to someone else's expression or to censor your own expression, so that's a separation of mind and body. Being rational doesn't make you less emotional, so to filter your expression because you have a logic filter is not integration. I've been using dance to integrate my own emotions with reason.
Rand saw art as the highest form of human communication precisely because it integrates reason and emotion into a single concrete experience. Art doesn't describe values — it makes them felt.
Here's a detailed cascade of what happens to a lot of people, particularly men, or as people age:
1. You're thinking about information all of the time
2. You're filtering out your candid expression logically
3. Your not expressing what makes you attractive, which is your emotional vitality.
All of these guidelines about texting or verbal communication are trying to mimic the characteristics of someone who has both emotional vitality and emotional fortitude. So if you're making it look like you're busy, it's demonstrating that you're time is valuable because you're productive. To breech your sense of integrity for the sake of human interaction is an expression of insecurity. The key to this is that it must come from within. You cannot fake these traits.
You must earn your emotional vitality
You must earn your emotional fortitude
You must train yourself to express these traits, even if this means re-wiring your brain.
Candor is honesty is motion, just like cause and effect is identity in motion.
There, I figured it out so that this all makes sense in the face of people who kind of get it but don't understand it enough to explain it conceptually.
with my frustrations and some confusing input I had to figure this out on my own. Texting guidelines are fantastic, however they don't convey the essence of what and why good communication should be like.
Maybe you've have been conditioned to be ashamed of expressing yourself, or maybe you've trained yourself to think about information practically all of the time, or maybe you're on the autistic spectrum. It doesn't matter. The solution is the same. You've got to train yourself to think and express yourself openly.
One poster suggested that I should stop dancing and talk to old people. Luckily, being the stubborn fool that I am, I ignored him.
What I've observed while dancing, is that the best dancers were also the best communicators.
That's because they've trained themselves to express themselves openly.
When somebody asked me why I cover my head when I'm dancing, I said "Imagine getting in a fight with me on the dance floor." You see, I train Muay Thai, so I have movement habits from both that and dancing. That kind of expression came to me after making up my own dance moves to the beat of the music.
Now if you want to be more technical, there's a more important distinction to make here: surrender vs. integration. These were my moves, not just copying what I think I should do. Ayn Rand rejected the mind/body dichotomy. To surrender yourself to someone else's expression or to censor your own expression, so that's a separation of mind and body. Being rational doesn't make you less emotional, so to filter your expression because you have a logic filter is not integration. I've been using dance to integrate my own emotions with reason.
Rand saw art as the highest form of human communication precisely because it integrates reason and emotion into a single concrete experience. Art doesn't describe values — it makes them felt.
Here's a detailed cascade of what happens to a lot of people, particularly men, or as people age:
1. You're thinking about information all of the time
2. You're filtering out your candid expression logically
3. Your not expressing what makes you attractive, which is your emotional vitality.
All of these guidelines about texting or verbal communication are trying to mimic the characteristics of someone who has both emotional vitality and emotional fortitude. So if you're making it look like you're busy, it's demonstrating that you're time is valuable because you're productive. To breech your sense of integrity for the sake of human interaction is an expression of insecurity. The key to this is that it must come from within. You cannot fake these traits.
You must earn your emotional vitality
You must earn your emotional fortitude
You must train yourself to express these traits, even if this means re-wiring your brain.
Candor is honesty is motion, just like cause and effect is identity in motion.
There, I figured it out so that this all makes sense in the face of people who kind of get it but don't understand it enough to explain it conceptually.
