"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Ladies and gentlemen I've cracked the code

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Anyone who pays attention here might know about this thread here


with my frustrations and some confusing input I had to figure this out on my own. Texting guidelines are fantastic, however they don't convey the essence of what and why good communication should be like.


Maybe you've have been conditioned to be ashamed of expressing yourself, or maybe you've trained yourself to think about information practically all of the time, or maybe you're on the autistic spectrum. It doesn't matter. The solution is the same. You've got to train yourself to think and express yourself openly.

One poster suggested that I should stop dancing and talk to old people. Luckily, being the stubborn fool that I am, I ignored him.


What I've observed while dancing, is that the best dancers were also the best communicators.


That's because they've trained themselves to express themselves openly.

When somebody asked me why I cover my head when I'm dancing, I said "Imagine getting in a fight with me on the dance floor." You see, I train Muay Thai, so I have movement habits from both that and dancing. That kind of expression came to me after making up my own dance moves to the beat of the music.

Now if you want to be more technical, there's a more important distinction to make here: surrender vs. integration. These were my moves, not just copying what I think I should do. Ayn Rand rejected the mind/body dichotomy. To surrender yourself to someone else's expression or to censor your own expression, so that's a separation of mind and body. Being rational doesn't make you less emotional, so to filter your expression because you have a logic filter is not integration. I've been using dance to integrate my own emotions with reason.

Rand saw art as the highest form of human communication precisely because it integrates reason and emotion into a single concrete experience. Art doesn't describe values — it makes them felt.


Here's a detailed cascade of what happens to a lot of people, particularly men, or as people age:

1. You're thinking about information all of the time

2. You're filtering out your candid expression logically

3. Your not expressing what makes you attractive, which is your emotional vitality.



All of these guidelines about texting or verbal communication are trying to mimic the characteristics of someone who has both emotional vitality and emotional fortitude. So if you're making it look like you're busy, it's demonstrating that you're time is valuable because you're productive. To breech your sense of integrity for the sake of human interaction is an expression of insecurity. The key to this is that it must come from within. You cannot fake these traits.


You must earn your emotional vitality

You must earn your emotional fortitude

You must train yourself to express these traits, even if this means re-wiring your brain.

Candor is honesty is motion, just like cause and effect is identity in motion.

There, I figured it out so that this all makes sense in the face of people who kind of get it but don't understand it enough to explain it conceptually.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Emotional fortitude is expressing "maturity." It actually isn't maturity, but that's what people interpret it as.

When people talk about maturity, it could be, or a combination of one of three traits:

1. the application of reason (which is the basis of maturity)

2. emotional fortitude, which is in itself not maturity, but this trait expresses maturity

3. conformity. so when someone says "act your age" what they are really saying is to conform to the expectations of other people have for someone your age. This is bulls**t.
 

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I've always had this within me, but I've had to train myself to bring it back out. Lately I've had some women flirt with me as I've been passing by.

Here's one of my recent matches. The texting conversation isn't perfect, but it's miles apart from my previous ones.
 

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Here's another one this week

This still needs a lot of work but I know what I'm doing now. I need to hit the dance floor.
 

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Bigger fan of your hinge one. I'd agree they're miles ahead of your last ones.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Here's one of my recent matches. The texting conversation isn't perfect, but it's miles apart from my previous ones.
weird and cringe AF.
The whole concept of a 42yrs old male flirting via text with an unknown woman based off of a few photos which might not even resemble her is pathetic and practically destroys your frame.
For all you know, on Thursday (when she apologised for replying late in the evening) she could've been fvcked hard by a no-nonsense, mode 1 type of guy (like @We_ArE_VeNOM ) while you sit there 'gaming' her with water jokes. :D :rolleyes:
 

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weird and cringe AF.
The whole concept of a 42yrs old male flirting via text with an unknown woman based off of a few photos which might not even resemble her is pathetic and practically destroys your frame.
For all you know, on Thursday (when she apologised for replying late in the evening) she could've been fvcked hard by a no-nonsense, mode 1 type of guy (like @We_ArE_VeNOM ) while you sit there 'gaming' her with water jokes. :D :rolleyes:

This is why I always say OLD should not be taken seriously and if you do engage with OLD the goal is to meet with the woman asap instead of wasting your time getting your hopes up and the girl who looks like a cute e-girl ends up being a whale (this happened to me in 2022)
 

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This is why I always say OLD should not be taken seriously and if you do engage with OLD the goal is to meet with the woman asap instead of wasting your time getting your hopes up and the girl who looks like a cute e-girl ends up being a whale (this happened to me in 2022)
That's why my main focus is cold approaching. My point here is that my communication has gotten better with practice. Dancing has helped me a lot, and when when I frame the moves as I'm the one making them to the music, it's training that part of my brain/mind. There's other ways to train yourself but I've found that dancing and doing your own interpretation works.
 

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I would say you are approaching the peak of the far left of the Dunning-Kruger effect curve rather than "cracking the code"...
 

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I would say you are approaching the peak of the far left of the Dunning-Kruger effect curve rather than "cracking the code"...
I didn't claim that I was good. The code I cracked is the conceptualization and a way to get better at it.

If this was a case of the Dunning-Kruger effect, then I wouldn't have been able to conceptualize it, and I wouldn't have been able to improve my communication skills.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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I've danced with a lot of women over the years and the best dancers are men that can lead and women that know how to follow. Its the best way I've ever found to filter out the type of women I want and don't want. The best partners are submissive and have high awareness and if they exhibit this by their motion on the dance floor they will also express it in a relationship.

Its two people creating a connection through non-verbal communication by expressing emotion thru movement. They say non-verbal communication is 65% of human communication. Its the fastest and easiest way there is to seduce women.

Your texts conversations look good. Fun, flirty, light but not shallow, and to the point.
 

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I've danced with a lot of women over the years and the best dancers are men that can lead and women that know how to follow. Its the best way I've ever found to filter out the type of women I want and don't want. The best partners are submissive and have high awareness and if they exhibit this by their motion on the dance floor they will also express it in a relationship.
Masculinity = effective power over the environment
Femininity = admiration of masculinity
 

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It sounds like he got GoodMan to pose as a chick in the app convos
I mean these women aren't super models but I think they're a little better than that
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Anyone who pays attention here might know about this thread here


with my frustrations and some confusing input I had to figure this out on my own. Texting guidelines are fantastic, however they don't convey the essence of what and why good communication should be like.


Maybe you've have been conditioned to be ashamed of expressing yourself, or maybe you've trained yourself to think about information practically all of the time, or maybe you're on the autistic spectrum. It doesn't matter. The solution is the same. You've got to train yourself to think and express yourself openly.

One poster suggested that I should stop dancing and talk to old people. Luckily, being the stubborn fool that I am, I ignored him.


What I've observed while dancing, is that the best dancers were also the best communicators.


That's because they've trained themselves to express themselves openly.

When somebody asked me why I cover my head when I'm dancing, I said "Imagine getting in a fight with me on the dance floor." You see, I train Muay Thai, so I have movement habits from both that and dancing. That kind of expression came to me after making up my own dance moves to the beat of the music.

Now if you want to be more technical, there's a more important distinction to make here: surrender vs. integration. These were my moves, not just copying what I think I should do. Ayn Rand rejected the mind/body dichotomy. To surrender yourself to someone else's expression or to censor your own expression, so that's a separation of mind and body. Being rational doesn't make you less emotional, so to filter your expression because you have a logic filter is not integration. I've been using dance to integrate my own emotions with reason.

Rand saw art as the highest form of human communication precisely because it integrates reason and emotion into a single concrete experience. Art doesn't describe values — it makes them felt.


Here's a detailed cascade of what happens to a lot of people, particularly men, or as people age:

1. You're thinking about information all of the time

2. You're filtering out your candid expression logically

3. Your not expressing what makes you attractive, which is your emotional vitality.



All of these guidelines about texting or verbal communication are trying to mimic the characteristics of someone who has both emotional vitality and emotional fortitude. So if you're making it look like you're busy, it's demonstrating that you're time is valuable because you're productive. To breech your sense of integrity for the sake of human interaction is an expression of insecurity. The key to this is that it must come from within. You cannot fake these traits.


You must earn your emotional vitality

You must earn your emotional fortitude

You must train yourself to express these traits, even if this means re-wiring your brain.

Candor is honesty is motion, just like cause and effect is identity in motion.

There, I figured it out so that this all makes sense in the face of people who kind of get it but don't understand it enough to explain it conceptually.
Words, words, words, words please shut up already. You’re worse than listening to a woman talk.
 

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Words, words, words, words please shut up already. You’re worse than listening to a woman talk.
I'm so happy that you're here. It's people like you and I that makes this place fun.

That avatar makes it even funnier.
 

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I really thought this post was going to be a lay report. I’m disappointed.
My lifetime lay count is somewhere north of 30.

I have full confidence that I'll find my life time partner. It's like I've already gotten laid in the future.

Relax man, don't be disappointed. I think we all have so much to be grateful for.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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