The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

[Adz--]

Day 46:

Last couple of days have been more down than up. Getting thoughts of the ex, in terms of memories and sh*t. Every time I catch my self I keep saying to myself that I give power to what I put into my mind and having my ex in my mind is something I don't want to give power to.

I'll be with a regular plate that comes over to mine and still have thoughts of the ex, I'm putting this down to different elements of stress that are all contributing at the moment and affecting me: A) Work B) Studying C) Not spending time on my hobbies D) Draining friends/ acquaintances/ work collegues and E) thoughts of the ex. Some of these things I can work on and balance out, others won't be as easy due to time restrictions and demands, but onwards and upwards.

I'm not going to lie, sh*t is difficult some days and easy breezy other days.

BUT One thing I can say for certain is that from the start of NC to this point, things are better for myself mentally, physically, spiritually and everything else. If It was easy everyone would be finish their NC without any challenges.

Adz--

 

[soulforge]

No Contact is easy but men make it difficult.

The point of NC is to never contact them or they contact you. Men use NC with the intention of hoping to get the girl back by distance. That’s weak.

Go No Contact, block her, delete her number, delete her pics, messages, and move on.

This is the best way.

Getting back with an ex is futile excercise.

 

[soulforge]

Never be a place holder boyfriend.

If you're not getting King treatment off her, then your likely the place holder, till something better comes along.

This is why it's a MUST, if you're girl isn't treating you super good.. DUMP HER

Put her azz back on the streets. King treatment only!

 

[johnrambo]

If you're not getting King treatment off her, then your likely the place holder, till something better comes along.

Yup, the BBD (Bigger and Better Deal).

 

[Glassguy]

Today is the 30 day mark of NC. The sting of the breakup and how she did it has resided. I have went back off the rails in terms of dating, having chicks come over, etc.

Its funny how their memory fades when you get engulfed in a lot of new pvssy.

 

[soulforge]

Today is the 30 day mark of NC. The sting of the breakup and how she did it has resided. I have went back off the rails in terms of dating, having chicks come over, etc.

Its funny how their memory fades when you get engulfed in a lot of new pvssy.

True, new puzzy definitely helps. And a variety of puzzy helps also.

Definitely no commitment to any chick for now.. Play the field.

 

[Foe]

Day 60ish:

Been seeing a new girl for a couple of weeks and things are going well. Doesnt have the same feel, almost like my emotions are walled off but its fun and Im enjoying it. Checked my phone this morning and noticed I got my first breadcrumb in 2 months, a missed (blocked) phone call from my ex, damn if it didnt send a electric shock through my body. Clearly Im still a work in progress, I can safely say I would have called back if not for this girl which is a sad realisation but in some ways.....progress.

Immediately setup a date with the new girl and Im going to enjoy that and try and forget about it.

 

[soulforge]

4 months NC

I'm the dumper.

It's still difficult as my physical attraction to her was very high & replacing her with an equally as attractive chick, is not going to be easy.

However with time and distance, I realise that she absolutely didn't have the qualities of a dependable long term partner.

Just a very difficult and combative person to deal with & red flags through the roof.

Just way too many obstacles to overcome to be with someone like her.. it's short term pain, and long term gain.

In the long run a girl like this can destroy your mental health.

 

[soulforge]

I actually feel good for being the dumper.

I kicked her out of my house late at night, for continusly arguing with me.

Too many of you dudes are holding onto toxic chicks.

My advice is to Dumped them.. If you have given them maybe 1 or 2 chances and they still playing up? Dump her ass.

It's a good feeling lol

 

[Glassguy]

I actually feel good for being the dumper.

I kicked her out of my house late at night, for continusly arguing with me.

Too many of you dudes are holding onto toxic chicks.

My advice is to Dumped them.. If you have given them maybe 1 or 2 chances and they still playing up? Dump her ass.

It's a good feeling lol

Being the dumper leaves you with a feeling of validation and also gives you the upper hand in power over the other person.

As you pointed out, its not always easy being the dumper, especially when you really dont want to lose the person but they give you no other option.

 

[Glassguy]

And I am on day 45? 50? Something like that. Its hard to find quality women these days, but its easy to find women to have fun with. At this point the latter is the best option.

 

[soulforge]

And I am on day 45? 50? Something like that. Its hard to find quality women these days, but its easy to find women to have fun with. At this point the latter is the best option.

Finding a good quality woman is the long game. It might happen, however likely to take some time.

In the mean time, best we focus on ourselves, leveling up and enjoy the casual fun along the way.

 

[Doctor Europeo]

Its hard to find quality women these days, but its easy to find women to have fun with.

Finding a good quality woman is the long game. It might happen, however likely to take some time.

In the mean time, best we focus on ourselves, leveling up and enjoy the casual fun along the way.

Agree. If a young clueless new member would read a bunch of SoSuave, this is basically what it all comes down to. Even if the definition of what is a "quality woman" is somewhat different for each man, it still holds true for most guys.

 

[Glassguy]

The big question is what would all of you do if your ex contacted you while you are doing no contact? Would you take the call or text and if you did then what would you say to them?

I wouldnt answer a call. Id simply text back several hours later "what did you need?"

I would not be in ANY big hurry to respond back. I would certainly give it enough time to make her wonder:
A. will I respond at all
B. Did I block her and did the message or call even come through
C. Did I just ignore her

She would have plenty of time to think about it before hearing back from me.

Value is rebuilt by being resilient, having a life outside of her, not being to anxious to respond back, building good anxiety in her, etc.

Based on your previous posts I believe this was a LDR? If thats the case, forget it. There is a mountain of an issue between you that cant be fixed right now. I wouldnt respond back to her if I were you. Nothing good comes out of it and the issue between the 2 of you isnt resolved and will not be resolved.

This is where most women are good at game and do it naturally. When most men see her reach out, jump up and down and respond back in 30 seconds. No bueno

 

[Glassguy]

Its just a matter of time before they all eventually reach back out to you. I think they do this to see if you are doing good and they put there feelers out there even though in most cases they dont wanna get back with the guy.

Not necessarily.

 

[Glassguy]

Which part?

They dont always reach back out. Even if the relationship was really good.

 

[soulforge]

The big question is what would all of you do if your ex contacted you while you are doing no contact? Would you take the call or text and if you did then what would you say to them?

I'm 99% confident that I would not take the call.

What possibly could you talk about.

If you have broken up, and some time has passed by, I can guarantee she has had sex with other dudes.

Once a chick has tried other diks, you would be a pathetic loser to even consider talking/getting back with her.

Getting back together after a break up, rarely ever works out, so why prologue the pain by talking to her..

Simply ignore the call.

 

[Glassguy]

Its like ripping the bandaid off over and over again.

Strengthen mentally, go to the gym, hit up new chicks go on dates.

If your ex hits you up later on, you have options. To sit around and wait by the phone wondering if they will text or call is insane.

 

[soulforge]

They dont always reach back out. Even if the relationship was really good.

My ex knows deep inside that i'm a pretty unforgiving person and very proud.

I doubt she would risk reaching out, as she understands I would ignore her, besides I booted her, so it's likely she would expect me to reach out.

 

[soulforge]

Are your exes quite hot?

Part of the difficulty of letting go of my ex is, because she is damn hot.. Age 24, blonde, blue eyes, slim/toned, & Eastern European. Most mens dream girl.

Hot.. but toxic/damaged.