Well said
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
52...have baby with partner?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
How does that help?
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According to your other thread, she is already starting to make your life miserable for "denying" her a baby.
This shiat will only get worse and you will be her go-to person to vent her frustration about not having a kid.
Just get out of this relationship and get an asian woman 10 years younger then her, should be no problem.
This shiat will only get worse and you will be her go-to person to vent her frustration about not having a kid.
Just get out of this relationship and get an asian woman 10 years younger then her, should be no problem.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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Yeah that's what I asked in the other thread...if he had told her no in regard to this. Most men don't realize that women can hold grudges with the best of them and a lot of their bad behavior can be linked to something they are mad or upset about from months or even years ago.
Guys usually don't make that connection, they usually only consider it in a vacuum.
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I can't imagine why a 52 year old guy would want a kid at this point in life. If you're 52, enjoy the kids you already have or keep enjoying the childless lifestyle.
I made a point earlier that I think it's best for guys to be done with kids by 35, maybe 36-37 at the latest to avoid kids impacting retirement plans.
If a man wants kids at 52, he needs a woman 20 years younger.
I made a point earlier that I think it's best for guys to be done with kids by 35, maybe 36-37 at the latest to avoid kids impacting retirement plans.
If a man wants kids at 52, he needs a woman 20 years younger.
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It saves you money.
Thanks. An Asian woman 10 years younger than her will likely still want a kid. Less chance of birth defects but still not something I am really wanting (a kid). So I think ... perhaps a single Mum is OK - they have their baby need met already? Then I recall Rollo Tomassi's exhortations to avoid single Mums. Pros and cons.
Answer: To keep the woman.
That is my main concern - still needing to make money (probably) at age 70 when they are about to go to college. This isn't necessarily the case if I do well financially for the next five years or so. She has a mortgage free house in Singapore which can help.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Not worth attempting to keep if it comes to that. That line of thinking leads to a postponement of the inevitable. Many struggling couples have a baby as a last ditch attempt to stay together. It doesn't work.
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He is afraid of losing access to sex.
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No man can operate with that sort of scarcity mentality. It's not healthy at all.
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At your age and the age group you are likely to date it shouldn't be hard to find women with grown children.
Nobody is the gospel on dating. Think for yourself. Rollo is not going to be there to walk you through every situation that occurs and there is no guarantee that his thoughts process when dating even resembles yours if you actually talked with him in person.
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The problem is that it's not your kid. The other guy is still floating around somewhere and may come back into the picture at some point. If you ever fall out with the girl, she can move on to the next guy and take her kid with her. You have zero rights and yet you'll still be expected to fork out to pay for the situation.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Fair. The thing is, I live in a city with a total lack of attractive single babes over the age of 40 (I don't rate my chances for ladies below 40 when I am 52). The obesity rate is massive. My slim attractive lady moved from Singapore to be with me.
Good advice, also the advice from Bat Soup above.
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Did your cvm dumpster freeze her eggs? If not, she's sh!t out of luck.
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It's a joke dude.
All kidding aside, you care for her, it evident, and that is fine. However, if you have no interest in bringing in a child in this world, walk away. It's painful, I am sure, but no reason in going through even more pain when she some how gets you to try and she's still unsuccessful. It's very unlikely that she has any viable eggs left at 45/46 without any frozen eggs. It's a lost cause for her, as that ship has sailed. Be careful she doesn't try to rope you into adopting one.
I'm in the medical field, so I know what I am talking about.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.