"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What weight of dumbbells do you guys recommend?

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I was thinking of purchasing 2 dumbbells and they each weigh 30lbs. I am 6'1" and I weigh 215lbs
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

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The best dumbells are ones that you can lift properly,with good form,while still being a bit of a test. As you progress,likely will be to light
 
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The best dumbells are ones that you can lift properly,with good form,while still being a bit of a test. As you progress,likely will be to light
Do I need to increase the weight over time or can i have big muscles with just staying with the same weight?
 

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Do I need to increase the weight over time or can i have big muscles with just staying with the same weight?
If you are new to the bodybuilding gig,ul make newbie gains fairly quickly,assuming you are doing structured exercises and eating well.Over time,ul need to lift heavier to get better,further results.However,thats not the only way,you can go slower,with lighter weights and super strict form...but in most cases if you want progress ul have to up the weights a touch,whilst not cheating.I do reccomend hitting the weights,there are no downsides and the discipline needed also is good for morale!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Do remember the old maxim tho,"you cant outrain a bad diet" For a long time,I thought,nonsense,but time has revealed that is a powerful truth,so accept it as such if you wanna be buff,take it from me
 

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I was thinking of purchasing 2 dumbbells and they each weigh 30lbs. I am 6'1" and I weigh 215lbs
You can't just get one pair. That would be pointless. You would be much better off buying a set of heavy, well made resistance bands...

Lightweight, portable and highly effective
 

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Search for these:

-Rogue Squat rack (The compact one is only $400)
-300 lb Fitness Gear weight set from Dvcks Sporting Goods ($300)

Best starter set.
I'd buy a set of high quality resistance bands instead of heavy equipment...far greater bang for your buck and highly portable as well. Might not be as effective but it's pretty close...95+% as effective.

 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I agree with everyone saying adjustable... I have powerblocks.... they go to 90 but I believe you can get a kit that takes them up to 160
 

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I always lift light with high reps when I'm using free weight, I watched my buddy jack his shoulder on a 100lb. Dumbbell.

I like to use the machines because I can max out without a spotter
 
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