"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Single Mothers Flake Like Crazy!
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
flowtheory
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You have your answer in your complaint...
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Sorry don't have the same experiences. My flake rate is near non-existent and I date quite a few of them.
Try maintaining contact between dates more.
Also this will happen more if they sense all you want is to fvck them.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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I have kids and I prefer someone in the same situation. My preference.
I'm not trying to date a single woman who wants kids from me. Not happening.
Baibars
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Would you LTR a single mom or cohabitate with her and her kid/s?
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I have been in a few LTRs with single Moms. 2 of the best relationships of my life.
Never lived together tho although I wouldn't preclude that...the kids only are with them usually half the time, the other half with the Dad. Same with my kids.
Definitely don't get involved with unstable Dad situations. That WILL cause drama and problems for you.
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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Maintaining contact between dates should be a two way thing..
If I don't text her first.. Bich doesn't text me.. She expects me to do ALL the work.
I messaged her on Sunday and arranged a meet for Friday.. Only spoke once at work..and zero text messages in between.
She can get fuked if she thinks I will do all the texting and all the date arranging too.
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I don't.. I just want to bang them
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That's why they flake.
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Nah this girl has come out of a 20 year relationship recently.. She just wants to have fun
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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You say that.. But only 6 days ago, she was on her knees sucking me off and was messaging me the very same day about doing that again..
I then suggested we get together on Tuesday or Friday.. And she said Friday would be better, which is today... Then she flaked last night.
Girls with zero interest don't just suck you off on a pretty regular basis.. I don't think her interest is high, but I think there is a matter of some games going on too & maybe it was a genuine flake.
But.. I don't care.. I got a few BJS out of her & in the long run this sloot is more trouble than its worth.. So next
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Actions brother...actions. In her mind you are the guy that will always be there for her and she will hit you up when she has nothing better to do. Or you are the backup or backup to the backup guy.
I am not saying you can't bang her...you probably could but honestly will it be worth the amount of effort? In my experience it never is.
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The childless women that I have typically interacted with have been flaky. In the last 9 years, these women I've been interacting with have typically been 25-35 at the time I've been interacting with them. Many of them are career oriented and will flake for work reasons. Or they flake just because I interacted with them on a swipe app and they have countless options.
Think about all the things that a man has to compete with for a woman's attention: Her job, her pets, her friends, her family, her hobbies/activities. That's a lot for a childless woman. A single mom has all those plus 1 or more children and possibly baby daddy issues.
Baibars
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What many guys forget is that being alpha doesn't mean having the best from both sides. Women want beta comfort and alpha dominance so if you say you banged her occasionally and she svcked you off, doesnt mean she'll text you all time etc.
I mean you're not Mr.dependable. You want to bang her and whenever she "needs" you, she fvcks you. When she needs a guy for another need of hers, she Talks to him.
This is how women operate.
Why do you expect more bru? Chill.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.