I avoid. Never that lonely for female companionship.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
"female companionship", thought you was a lady into men?
yes, I am, not interested in women like that.
I don't have female friends, just acquaintances.
That's what I meant.
I would love Mrs. Midwes t Cait from youtube to be my friend but how?
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
But for a male... This is awesome advise. You didn't help yourself going around them, you actually set yourself back every single time.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
That's good advise too. Same sex friends who always have to "reduce" you to be around them, or you know are going to be adding lies to the gossip. Never be that desperate for company to be round them.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
What you hear is a crystal clear CLARITY. Theres not a thing that needs to be expelled. Why dont you think about it?
I don't think you have PTSD. I explained to you that you have is unhealed parts that will NEVER ever get healthy until you lay with that lover who is not using you and sees you in a good light. As long as that part goes unfed, as long as you speak in anger from that area of life, it will remain an unhealed wound. A doctor may prescribe medicine, and it will not fix the problem. Some therepist may be able to tell you the answer, but others practices will skirt around that type of solution.
why do guys assume women are getting these oppotunities for this kind of valuable man?
geez, to raise my smv from where it is now to something better will take me years, not months.
I agree with you btw.
I have had these experiences with a person I love.
I know what is good about it all. Just not at the smv stage that will attract yet. I take responsibility. I'm doing the work required to effect change.
I'm not saying no to opportunity if it appears before the 1000 days are completed.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
LOL. To get that type of man, you dont even need your SMV to the sky.
It'll be a "nicer" man IMHO that somehow sees something in your soul.
As usual as human beings it's best for us to take care of ourselves. Just like the Chris Rock joke about pushing the car on the highway. If you don't help yourself, it's almost like no body would help you. Once you do a little to help yourself, others will help out.
a beta man will work best for my buttercup emotions
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Probably so, because a true Alpha wouldn't care or overlook them...a beta man will work best for my buttercup emotions
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
You have an alternative course of recourse. Keep dating men that you were, that keep you highly inflamed and disrespected. You also date more kinder and beta men and dish that pain and angst out on them. Doling out the same punishment you get for trying to hang on to the Alpha. This is why i called that format a "Vampiric" arrangement. This is what alot of folks do.a beta man will work best for my buttercup emotions
I see what you mean.
I only date one at a time.
Hope you are doing well mrgoodstuff. Everything's good?
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Having good workouts and life is good
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Why would you ever assume everything is not good? We all have good and bad in our lives in varying quantities.
I picked up on a different tone to the post before I asked that.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
You shouldn't always read into things. It might not be what you think.
ok, you're right. I have what's called emotional impairment because of the disease of alcoholism(so they suggest in the fellowship)
Hey, asking someone how they are is a good thing anyways
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mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Did you know that "workaholics" and other high performers are prone to "alcoholism". It's said to run rampant in sales, lawyers and high pressure cooker types of careers. The high pressure and stress produces and environment can explode into alcoholism relatively easily. Remember how the liquor flowed on the movie "Devils advocate"? What about the wall street movies? What about real life?ok, you're right. I have what's called emotional impairment because of the disease of alcoholism(so they suggest in the fellowship)
Hey, asking someone how they are is a good thing anyways
hey, I'm going to "@" you in one of my threads to answer you so I don't keep derailing OP's thread.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.