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MatureDJ

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I have been with my husband for 15 years and married for close to 10 years. Halfway throughout our marriage I was diagnosed with an illness which decreased my sex drive. I also have no kids due to my illness. Because of my low sex drive I would mostly say no to my husband if he wanted to have sex.
One day while watching TV I grabbed my husband's phone to look at some pictures that he took and he immediately took back his phone and started acting suspicious. My husband is a very bad liar so I knew instantly that he was hiding something. He confessed and showed me all the porn that he had been watching. I was so upset at him and cried because I felt betrayed.
Months went by and I could feel my hormones starting to change. I was always horny. This time when I wanted to have sex my husband never had the time (he works 2 jobs and gets exhausted).
I decided to go online and sex chat with strangers to see how it would make me feel. I chatted with a few guys and the feeling was incredible. Made me feel so bad. I would take sexy pictures and rejoice every time I received a compliment on my hott body. I felt wanted, which is the exact feeling I was longing for. I then began chatting with this new guy.
For me, I have an amazing relationship for my husband so i was purely looking for something sexual.
This guy had a way with his words and it was so hard to say no. So yesterday I went to see him, but this time it was in a hotel. I bought the sexiest outfit and lingerie I could find. He was so passionate. He kissed every part of my body and even did things I wouldn't allow my husband to do. I gave him a bj and made him *** within a matter of seconds.
But what we did enjoy was 3 hours of passion and I can't get it out of my mind. I am ashamed to say that i woke up this morning feeling no regret. I love my husband and will spend the rest of my life making it up to him.
I love my husband more than I love my own mother. I always think about all the years I deprived him of sex, yet he still never cheated on me...and here I was after a few months of neglect going off and having an affair. He is my best friend and i could never imagine my life without him. I know he deserves better.
 

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Rey cool post. Thanks for posting it.

As pretty much expected, her desire for her husband fell off.

What she wasn’t saying is that she altered the time line just a little. She got online and THEN started to feel desire. Or flirted with someone at the grocery store. This is important because she had to throw her justification in before getting online.

Justification:
“This time when I wanted to have sex my husband never had the time (he works 2 jobs and gets exhausted)

This is a standard providing husband. Even working 2 jobs to make a life for them. Does this work? Never. It never will.
She will admire him for his hard work and “love” him for it but still fuk the sex man.

How do I know he was the sex man? She let him do things to her she would never let her husband do. A man who worked his life away getting the basic fundamental sex only.

When a man commits to a woman, his status as her lover drops automatically. Almost instantly. This is biology. She lost desire for him and thought it was just a low sex drive situation. Every married man I know gets this same scenario. It makes sense. She doesn’t know why! Love is a fairy tale right?

A woman’s sex drive is never gone. It’s sits idling in the background. It’s still a 300 horse power engine waiting for the light to turn green.

Because she thought she suffered low sex drive, this means she found ways all along to get out of sex for a long time. Or at least a long time for a 300 horse power engine idling in the background.

You are a either the sex man or you are the shelter, food, safety guy. There might have been a time where a man could be both. But the feminine world has decisively wrecked that possibility.
 

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So she felt betrayed when watched porn after denying him of sex for so long yet had no problem actually cheating on as soon as she wanted sex? Seems like typical woman logic to me. Low quality woman.
 

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You’re gonna run out of women. Lol
Actually this is pretty normal and I would say the lion share of women by far. She did nothing out of the ordinary.
The only difference is she wrote about it and other women are smart enough to keep their mouth shut.
There are real virgins who are religious too before marriage who would not pull this stunt. At least not seek it like this woman did. I know it's hard to fathom here in the west among the average wilderbeast that is the western anglo woman, but they do in fact exist in this world.
 

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You’re gonna run out of women. Lol
Actually this is pretty normal and I would say the lion share of women by far. She did nothing out of the ordinary.
The only difference is she wrote about it and other women are smart enough to keep their mouth shut.
It's low quality men. Not women.

A real man won't bang another guys wife. Its called honor.

You should always be asking and finding out if a girl is taken. If shes out with friends and one of her friends is a guy and hes telling you shes single its quite obvious and highly likely shes not dating anyone or married with 4 kids.
 

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It's low quality men. Not women.

A real man won't bang another guys wife. Its called honor.

You should always be asking and finding out if a girl is taken. If shes out with friends and one of her friends is a guy and hes telling you shes single its quite obvious and highly likely shes not dating anyone or married with 4 kids.
I’m going to let my statement stand as is.

You are free to believe and think as you please. I wouldn’t dream of trying to tell you otherwise. I was just commenting. Carry on.
 

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I’m going to let my statement stand as is.

You are free to believe and think as you please. I wouldn’t dream of trying to tell you otherwise. I was just commenting. Carry on.
I don't think guys should even commit to women imo and care if they go with another guy. This creates attraction. But if a guy decides he wants to commit then good luck to him and hope no guy with no morals comes and steals the show.
 

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It's low quality men. Not women.

A real man won't bang another guys wife. Its called honor.

You should always be asking and finding out if a girl is taken. If shes out with friends and one of her friends is a guy and hes telling you shes single its quite obvious and highly likely shes not dating anyone or married with 4 kids.
I agree it is not honorable, but don't make excuses for sluts as well. What they are doing is worse.
 

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It's low quality men. Not women.

A real man won't bang another guys wife. Its called honor.

You should always be asking and finding out if a girl is taken. If shes out with friends and one of her friends is a guy and hes telling you shes single its quite obvious and highly likely shes not dating anyone or married with 4 kids.
likewise women should be asking if the guy is attached or taken.

Ngl, I found it traumatic that my ex had no remorse about sleeping with someone's spouse.
It occured to me about 2 months ago that in another example, his nephews might actually be his sons....(did he also potentially sleep with his brother's commonlaw wife? if he feels no remorse in the other scenario was he capable of that immorality too?)

currently working on releasing this pain
 

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I agree it is not honorable, but don't make excuses for sluts as well. What they are doing is worse.
You can't become a victim because of it and then create a couple of more victims. Happens all the time where the girl cheats guy finds out and at worse kills her or himself or the other guy or all three.

Easiest way it to avoid that in the first place, stop blaming women for wanting to have sex with mutiple guys or girls because it's a fault in everyones genetic makeup whether your female or male.
 

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likewise women should be asking if the guy is attached or taken.

Ngl, I found it traumatic that my ex had no remorse about sleeping with someone's spouse.
It occured to me about 2 months ago that in another example, his nephews might actually be his sons....(did he also potentially sleep with his brother's commonlaw wife? if he feels no remorse in the other scenario was he capable of that immorality too?)

currently working on releasing this pain
Yes and girls have asked me if i have a gf.

His immorality is no worse than anyone elses immorality. Yes he had no honor but he's only hurting himself in some sense. You can't put the blame on him and say he deserves to be beaten up or something. Doing that only hurts you.
 

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Yes and girls have asked me if i have a gf.

His immorality is no worse than anyone elses immorality. Yes he had no honor but he's only hurting himself in some sense. You can't put the blame on him and say he deserves to be beaten up or something. Doing that only hurts you.
thanks hey.
it gets worse.
he would say to me, "do you want to see me get beat up?" if I kept trying to get him to apologise to the husband.....me thinking this had all just only happened in the past but instead was still continuing. I should have walked immediately upon hearing about this from his 'past'.
Loneliness is a tricky master.
 

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thanks hey.
it gets worse.
he would say to me, "do you want to see me get beat up?" if I kept trying to get him to apologise to the husband.....me thinking this had all just only happened in the past but instead was still continuing. I should have walked immediately upon hearing about this from his 'past'.
Loneliness is a tricky master.
Well he's a coward but we are all of capable of been cowards at times. Knowing that there's no hard feelings towards it. That husband might have a different point of view though and beat the **** out of him even if he apologizes.
 

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Well he's a coward but we are all of capable of been cowards at times. Knowing that there's no hard feelings towards it.
including me...maybe some transgression of mine from my past equally horrified him, who knows.


Not interested in relationship/homewrecking or ever have been or ever will be though.

thanks for your replies, have a great night and stay healthy/safe
 

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including me...maybe some transgression of mine from my past equally horrified him, who knows.


Not interested in relationship/homewrecking or ever have been or ever will be though.

thanks for your replies, have a great night and stay healthy/safe
I am interested in relationship/homewrecking. I have never done it but i like it. Had girls tell me they are married after i asked them and they said yes and i ended up bailing on them. I wanted to do it but at the same time not wanting to get involved in it.

In my heart really I wanna do it. I think just about everyone does. Had a pastor who me and her were locked eye contact for awhile and she ran off. She tries not to touch me when he husband could be looking. She wants to but at the same time doesn't want to either. The husband ain't stupid and knows i like her and she likes me. Other girls like me as well and a guy will come and stand next to us sort of sniffing stuff out. The girls opened me in these cases and they even have boyfriends engaged to them at the time and they got married to these guys.
 
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Rey cool post. Thanks for posting it.

As pretty much expected, her desire for her husband fell off.

What she wasn’t saying is that she altered the time line just a little. She got online and THEN started to feel desire. Or flirted with someone at the grocery store. This is important because she had to throw her justification in before getting online.

Justification:
“This time when I wanted to have sex my husband never had the time (he works 2 jobs and gets exhausted)

This is a standard providing husband. Even working 2 jobs to make a life for them. Does this work? Never. It never will.
She will admire him for his hard work and “love” him for it but still fuk the sex man.

How do I know he was the sex man? She let him do things to her she would never let her husband do. A man who worked his life away getting the basic fundamental sex only.

When a man commits to a woman, his status as her lover drops automatically. Almost instantly. This is biology. She lost desire for him and thought it was just a low sex drive situation. Every married man I know gets this same scenario. It makes sense. She doesn’t know why! Love is a fairy tale right?

A woman’s sex drive is never gone. It’s sits idling in the background. It’s still a 300 horse power engine waiting for the light to turn green.

Because she thought she suffered low sex drive, this means she found ways all along to get out of sex for a long time. Or at least a long time for a 300 horse power engine idling in the background.

You are a either the sex man or you are the shelter, food, safety guy. There might have been a time where a man could be both. But the feminine world has decisively wrecked that possibility.
So men don't have 300, 400 500 HP or more? You do realize that society depicts that women are to be on a pedastal and they know sex and perhaps should "teach" men. Have you ever figured out that perhaps some men are samurai in the bedroom? Sexual power, vitality, enough that it energizes the subject of their desire? This entire thing about compartamentalized roles, in that the sex guy is supposed to be someone different than the guy whose married to her, is a result of common society and the "f" word. This is how they want things.
 

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So men don't have 300, 400 500 HP or more?
Sure. Of course. The vast amount of men do not cheat. The penalty is too severe. Especially with kids. There are constraints and penalties for cheating men.

A woman and a man are both responsible for their choices. But I don’t put them together. The situation is caused by women being corrupted and men having masculinity squashed.

I do not use the extremes. That’s what obfuscates the direct cause.
 

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Sure. Of course. The vast amount of men do not cheat. The penalty is too severe. Especially with kids. There are constraints and penalties for cheating men.

A woman and a man are both responsible for their choices. But I don’t put them together. The situation is caused by women being corrupted and men having masculinity squashed.

I do not use the extremes. That’s what obfuscates the direct cause.
Yes but they wanna cheat. I talk to women and they say that the guy who dates such and such girl has a wandering eye. They even say there own husband has a wandering eye as well. When a guy gets up off the table and says that girl is quite skinny and looks at her wearing skimpy clothes thats quite obvious and doing it when his girlfriend is not in the room. Also these guys are always telling me theres a girl for you or did you get her number. and guys ask me in clubs if the girl i'm with is my girfriend when we just met 20 mins ago lol.
 

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You’re gonna run out of women. Lol
Actually this is pretty normal and I would say the lion share of women by far. She did nothing out of the ordinary.
The only difference is she wrote about it and other women are smart enough to keep their mouth shut.
Today, many of those men had been "caught". They were actually good in the sack and had good qualities. The women en-masse are enjoying this guilty pleasure of cucking their men. Some of the worse women, will cuck a strong and capable man as a challenge.
 
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