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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
HyenaPrince
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I'd be worried about you if you were.
Lol. I wasnt greek
mrgoodstuff
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Nothing about the energy or anything else felt "funny"? You see with those soroties and fraternities it's "them" and everyone else is outsiders. Likely if there is a guy, it's someone from her past from the right frat. Also her sororitie sisters priority and viewpoints will override you, you are kind of a prop. A "Ken doll". If you got alot of game, the "Ken Doll" can have it pretty good. Especially if her sisters are jealous and want to fvck, if none of them would want you, then she wouuld be reluctant and lose interest as well. They all make joint decisions. Key points in your household were likely analyzed by her group.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
That's what he's saying. They aren't going to care about you at all.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Very true. I had no idea of the GDI...mentality. of its them vs everyone else.
She does talk to her sorority sisters and confides in them more than i couldve imagined...
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Did she give you some of that kind of action?
1st mistake.
2nd mistake, trying to cover up.
For making her less guilty, she blames you and now that she has done it, it's all your fault that she's gonna do something behind ur back.
Of course she's innocent of all charges, women's logic is simply amazing.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Hell, one of them probably asked that she start fvcking you again... Be that "Ken Doll". Even in a more "cleaner" situation, this is what they've done to men. One of the main defences is to have a seriously high SMV where all her girls would fvck you in a second if they could.
Not really. Weve done it a few times
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
HyenaPrince
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Damn. Just imagine what kind of crap they're putting into her head. Not that it would make a difference. But they're definitely encouraging her to go through with some dirty things she wouldn't have thought of by herself.
Oh im sure... they were some party girls...
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
As a treat. Cheaters are kinda crazy. They'll space out days between hubs and her side dude. She might even have you in different holes. Easier for them to compartmentalize.
HyenaPrince
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Group situations always dumb down the individual. The IQ decreases to a common value so nobody has to think for themselves. With women it's even worse. Because they're so insecure they literally go along with EVERYTHING the group decides.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
It is, they surely have a way to manage things to absolve themselves of any guilt and responsibility.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Oh yeh. I hear all the time..."this is all your fault... u did this"
No matter the fight. I remind her it takes 2 to fight... but shell say its all my fault...
She just doesn't care.
She does now... for the moment
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
In her sorority culture they build an ego ( narcissistic ) and manage it. So she'll lie more and be more self serving.
Now that I've read most of the thread and ur replies herein, best you start preparing an exit strategy.
No man should endure what you are enduring.
Even if it means leaving ur kids, because ultimately even if you do stay on, the resentments will only build on over time, from you towards her, and her disrespect will continue to get from bad to worse.
And the worst part throughout, if you stay on, your OWN KIDS will disrespect you.
2nd time ever I'm asking someone here to get out of a marriage.
Find the prove 1st before anything, hire a private investigator.
No man should endure what you are enduring.
Even if it means leaving ur kids, because ultimately even if you do stay on, the resentments will only build on over time, from you towards her, and her disrespect will continue to get from bad to worse.
And the worst part throughout, if you stay on, your OWN KIDS will disrespect you.
2nd time ever I'm asking someone here to get out of a marriage.
Find the prove 1st before anything, hire a private investigator.
No. Not my 1st. He doeant resemble me. He actually has a few characteristics of her ex she left me at the bar for...
I kid u not.
Also. Somehow... she talked me into not naming my 1st after me at all. We went with a unique 1st name but ... the middle name is after her mothers maiden...
She rationalized it... i felt i was being cool...flexible.
But now... it pisses me off and makes me wonder her purpose in that...
Yeh. She has made comments to me like... "next" when in an arguement... like whos next for her..
I looked at her like... wtf...
Im come to hear that next is a greek mentality...
Theres always more put there
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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