"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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"You just want sex"

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What are your best responses when a girl levels this accusation ?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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What are your best responses when a girl levels this accusation ?
Tell her that you find her attractive and of course having sex with her is part of that. That will almost immediately bring on the "talk" about what you are wanting from her.

You can either string her along and then ghost once you smash or you can be honest and tell her you just want to go out and have a good time. She will know what you mean.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I think @AttackFormation nails it. This statement doesn't not deflect or deny the fact that you as the man want sex. Any woman silly enough to just blurt this out is stating the obvious and to me it suggests fear, inexperience or jadedness and it's impossible to know which...(unless she's teasing you - I've said this in a teasing way to acknowledge the sexual expectation and to build tension.)

The delivery of such a statement from a woman means EVERYTHING.

I think a smile and "Well Duh, if you play your cards right" with a light tone also accomplishes the same thing as AttackFormation's example.

In any case if it's testing OR teasing you respond and keep the conversation moving. No reason for this to create a logjam.
 

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What are your best responses when a girl levels this accusation ?
Bro that statement is not an "accusation". She didn't go to the police and "accuse" you of anything. It's a simple statement.

"All you want is sex."
I would reply "What else do you bring to the table?"

If she brings money to the table or some important connections, sex can be put off or negotiated. o_O
 

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She didn't go to the police and "accuse" you of anything.
I know. It was a figure of speech.

Tell her that you find her attractive and of course having sex with her is part of that. That will almost immediately bring on the "talk" about what you are wanting from her.
Bingo. I took this slightly less inflammatory path (she's Italian and therefore extra firey) and that is exactly what resulted.

TMK: ":D Oh darling. I find you very attractive, so of course I want to have sex with you. But I also enjoy your company and would like to know you better. Nothing unusual in that".

ITALIAN CHICK: "No there's not. I thought you just wanted sex last time."

TMK: "I'm a bit busy for the next week, but have a birthday soon so we should go out and celebrate. Let me know when you're free."

ITALIAN CHICK: "Do you mean this weekend?"

Job done. Thanks guys.
 

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I haven't laid a hand on you.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Actions over words....Part of the Anti-slut defense.

I just got the "you know I didn't call you over for a booty call".... As she was stripping off her clothes...
 

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It really doesn't matter if she thinks you "just want sex". You've lost before she asked the question, and she's already headed out the door anyway. As they say...Next!
 

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Just say, "Ya, I just banged one, jacked off and banged 2 more, and now it's your turn". If she doesn't comply, spin the next plate!
 

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"Pffft, and you don't?"

Women conform to what the boundaries of a social standard. You have to be a strong enough individual to be able to set your own standards and make her feel like your standards are actual social rules. A woman's number one fear is public shaming, so if you make her feel embarrassed or awkward for telling you or asking you something, then she won't bring it up again and you will have shifted her idea of the social construct more towards yours and also you would also make her self esteem to rely slighlty more upon your affirmations of her (make her slightly more insecure). Yes this may be a bit sociopathic, but I have realized that this is how influential people are. Have a strong personality.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Yup and?
Or
”why? Don't you like sex?”
 

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It really doesn't matter if she thinks you "just want sex". You've lost before she asked the question, and she's already headed out the door anyway. As they say...Next!
Yup. That's what I got out of that from my own situations I've seen.
 

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Your the one with sex on the mind, stop trying to seduce me, woman! ;)

or a simple 'yeah'
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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