TheMonkeyKing
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What are your best responses when a girl levels this accusation ?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
"You just want sex"
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
AttackFormation
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Personally I pre-empt it by making a joke about how all she wants me for is sex.
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Tell her that you find her attractive and of course having sex with her is part of that. That will almost immediately bring on the "talk" about what you are wanting from her.
You can either string her along and then ghost once you smash or you can be honest and tell her you just want to go out and have a good time. She will know what you mean.
TheFixer14
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I tell her to suck my d!ck because I think I'm based god.
"Mmm hmmm. How naughty of me."
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Killakittie
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"Your reverse psychology won't work on me. Behave yourself!"
BeExcellent
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I think @AttackFormation nails it. This statement doesn't not deflect or deny the fact that you as the man want sex. Any woman silly enough to just blurt this out is stating the obvious and to me it suggests fear, inexperience or jadedness and it's impossible to know which...(unless she's teasing you - I've said this in a teasing way to acknowledge the sexual expectation and to build tension.)
The delivery of such a statement from a woman means EVERYTHING.
I think a smile and "Well Duh, if you play your cards right" with a light tone also accomplishes the same thing as AttackFormation's example.
In any case if it's testing OR teasing you respond and keep the conversation moving. No reason for this to create a logjam.
The delivery of such a statement from a woman means EVERYTHING.
I think a smile and "Well Duh, if you play your cards right" with a light tone also accomplishes the same thing as AttackFormation's example.
In any case if it's testing OR teasing you respond and keep the conversation moving. No reason for this to create a logjam.
Bro that statement is not an "accusation". She didn't go to the police and "accuse" you of anything. It's a simple statement.
"All you want is sex."
I would reply "What else do you bring to the table?"
If she brings money to the table or some important connections, sex can be put off or negotiated.
TheMonkeyKing
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I know. It was a figure of speech.
Bingo. I took this slightly less inflammatory path (she's Italian and therefore extra firey) and that is exactly what resulted.
TMK: "
Oh darling. I find you very attractive, so of course I want to have sex with you. But I also enjoy your company and would like to know you better. Nothing unusual in that".ITALIAN CHICK: "No there's not. I thought you just wanted sex last time."
TMK: "I'm a bit busy for the next week, but have a birthday soon so we should go out and celebrate. Let me know when you're free."
ITALIAN CHICK: "Do you mean this weekend?"
Job done. Thanks guys.
wifehunter
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I haven't laid a hand on you.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
TheCuckSlayer
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And that, kids, is how you fail a sh1t test.
wifehunter
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It really doesn't matter if she thinks you "just want sex". You've lost before she asked the question, and she's already headed out the door anyway. As they say...Next!
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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"Pffft, and you don't?"
Women conform to what the boundaries of a social standard. You have to be a strong enough individual to be able to set your own standards and make her feel like your standards are actual social rules. A woman's number one fear is public shaming, so if you make her feel embarrassed or awkward for telling you or asking you something, then she won't bring it up again and you will have shifted her idea of the social construct more towards yours and also you would also make her self esteem to rely slighlty more upon your affirmations of her (make her slightly more insecure). Yes this may be a bit sociopathic, but I have realized that this is how influential people are. Have a strong personality.
Women conform to what the boundaries of a social standard. You have to be a strong enough individual to be able to set your own standards and make her feel like your standards are actual social rules. A woman's number one fear is public shaming, so if you make her feel embarrassed or awkward for telling you or asking you something, then she won't bring it up again and you will have shifted her idea of the social construct more towards yours and also you would also make her self esteem to rely slighlty more upon your affirmations of her (make her slightly more insecure). Yes this may be a bit sociopathic, but I have realized that this is how influential people are. Have a strong personality.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
daddymonsterpoodle
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Yup and?
Or
”why? Don't you like sex?”
Or
”why? Don't you like sex?”
l_e_g_e_n_d
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"Yup."
The greater shamelessness in your response, the better.
The greater shamelessness in your response, the better.
old_skoolr
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Girl : You just want sex
Old Skoolr: Well not just sex, I'd like a sandwich afterwards too.
Old Skoolr: Well not just sex, I'd like a sandwich afterwards too.
Yup. That's what I got out of that from my own situations I've seen.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.