TheMonkeyKing
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What are your best responses when a girl levels this accusation ?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
"You just want sex"
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
AttackFormation
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Personally I pre-empt it by making a joke about how all she wants me for is sex.
Glassguy
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Tell her that you find her attractive and of course having sex with her is part of that. That will almost immediately bring on the "talk" about what you are wanting from her.
You can either string her along and then ghost once you smash or you can be honest and tell her you just want to go out and have a good time. She will know what you mean.
TheFixer14
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I tell her to suck my d!ck because I think I'm based god.
"Mmm hmmm. How naughty of me."
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Killakittie
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"Your reverse psychology won't work on me. Behave yourself!"
BeExcellent
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I think @AttackFormation nails it. This statement doesn't not deflect or deny the fact that you as the man want sex. Any woman silly enough to just blurt this out is stating the obvious and to me it suggests fear, inexperience or jadedness and it's impossible to know which...(unless she's teasing you - I've said this in a teasing way to acknowledge the sexual expectation and to build tension.)
The delivery of such a statement from a woman means EVERYTHING.
I think a smile and "Well Duh, if you play your cards right" with a light tone also accomplishes the same thing as AttackFormation's example.
In any case if it's testing OR teasing you respond and keep the conversation moving. No reason for this to create a logjam.
The delivery of such a statement from a woman means EVERYTHING.
I think a smile and "Well Duh, if you play your cards right" with a light tone also accomplishes the same thing as AttackFormation's example.
In any case if it's testing OR teasing you respond and keep the conversation moving. No reason for this to create a logjam.
Bro that statement is not an "accusation". She didn't go to the police and "accuse" you of anything. It's a simple statement.
"All you want is sex."
I would reply "What else do you bring to the table?"
If she brings money to the table or some important connections, sex can be put off or negotiated.
TheMonkeyKing
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I know. It was a figure of speech.
Bingo. I took this slightly less inflammatory path (she's Italian and therefore extra firey) and that is exactly what resulted.
TMK: "
Oh darling. I find you very attractive, so of course I want to have sex with you. But I also enjoy your company and would like to know you better. Nothing unusual in that".ITALIAN CHICK: "No there's not. I thought you just wanted sex last time."
TMK: "I'm a bit busy for the next week, but have a birthday soon so we should go out and celebrate. Let me know when you're free."
ITALIAN CHICK: "Do you mean this weekend?"
Job done. Thanks guys.
wifehunter
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I haven't laid a hand on you.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
TheCuckSlayer
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And that, kids, is how you fail a sh1t test.
wifehunter
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It really doesn't matter if she thinks you "just want sex". You've lost before she asked the question, and she's already headed out the door anyway. As they say...Next!
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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"Pffft, and you don't?"
Women conform to what the boundaries of a social standard. You have to be a strong enough individual to be able to set your own standards and make her feel like your standards are actual social rules. A woman's number one fear is public shaming, so if you make her feel embarrassed or awkward for telling you or asking you something, then she won't bring it up again and you will have shifted her idea of the social construct more towards yours and also you would also make her self esteem to rely slighlty more upon your affirmations of her (make her slightly more insecure). Yes this may be a bit sociopathic, but I have realized that this is how influential people are. Have a strong personality.
Women conform to what the boundaries of a social standard. You have to be a strong enough individual to be able to set your own standards and make her feel like your standards are actual social rules. A woman's number one fear is public shaming, so if you make her feel embarrassed or awkward for telling you or asking you something, then she won't bring it up again and you will have shifted her idea of the social construct more towards yours and also you would also make her self esteem to rely slighlty more upon your affirmations of her (make her slightly more insecure). Yes this may be a bit sociopathic, but I have realized that this is how influential people are. Have a strong personality.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
daddymonsterpoodle
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Yup and?
Or
”why? Don't you like sex?”
Or
”why? Don't you like sex?”
l_e_g_e_n_d
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"Yup."
The greater shamelessness in your response, the better.
The greater shamelessness in your response, the better.
old_skoolr
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Girl : You just want sex
Old Skoolr: Well not just sex, I'd like a sandwich afterwards too.
Old Skoolr: Well not just sex, I'd like a sandwich afterwards too.
Yup. That's what I got out of that from my own situations I've seen.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.