TheMonkeyKing
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What are your best responses when a girl levels this accusation ?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
"You just want sex"
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
AttackFormation
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Personally I pre-empt it by making a joke about how all she wants me for is sex.
Glassguy
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Tell her that you find her attractive and of course having sex with her is part of that. That will almost immediately bring on the "talk" about what you are wanting from her.
You can either string her along and then ghost once you smash or you can be honest and tell her you just want to go out and have a good time. She will know what you mean.
TheFixer14
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I tell her to suck my d!ck because I think I'm based god.
"Mmm hmmm. How naughty of me."
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Killakittie
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"Your reverse psychology won't work on me. Behave yourself!"
BeExcellent
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I think @AttackFormation nails it. This statement doesn't not deflect or deny the fact that you as the man want sex. Any woman silly enough to just blurt this out is stating the obvious and to me it suggests fear, inexperience or jadedness and it's impossible to know which...(unless she's teasing you - I've said this in a teasing way to acknowledge the sexual expectation and to build tension.)
The delivery of such a statement from a woman means EVERYTHING.
I think a smile and "Well Duh, if you play your cards right" with a light tone also accomplishes the same thing as AttackFormation's example.
In any case if it's testing OR teasing you respond and keep the conversation moving. No reason for this to create a logjam.
The delivery of such a statement from a woman means EVERYTHING.
I think a smile and "Well Duh, if you play your cards right" with a light tone also accomplishes the same thing as AttackFormation's example.
In any case if it's testing OR teasing you respond and keep the conversation moving. No reason for this to create a logjam.
Bro that statement is not an "accusation". She didn't go to the police and "accuse" you of anything. It's a simple statement.
"All you want is sex."
I would reply "What else do you bring to the table?"
If she brings money to the table or some important connections, sex can be put off or negotiated.
TheMonkeyKing
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I know. It was a figure of speech.
Bingo. I took this slightly less inflammatory path (she's Italian and therefore extra firey) and that is exactly what resulted.
TMK: "
Oh darling. I find you very attractive, so of course I want to have sex with you. But I also enjoy your company and would like to know you better. Nothing unusual in that".ITALIAN CHICK: "No there's not. I thought you just wanted sex last time."
TMK: "I'm a bit busy for the next week, but have a birthday soon so we should go out and celebrate. Let me know when you're free."
ITALIAN CHICK: "Do you mean this weekend?"
Job done. Thanks guys.
wifehunter
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I haven't laid a hand on you.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
TheCuckSlayer
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And that, kids, is how you fail a sh1t test.
wifehunter
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It really doesn't matter if she thinks you "just want sex". You've lost before she asked the question, and she's already headed out the door anyway. As they say...Next!
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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"Pffft, and you don't?"
Women conform to what the boundaries of a social standard. You have to be a strong enough individual to be able to set your own standards and make her feel like your standards are actual social rules. A woman's number one fear is public shaming, so if you make her feel embarrassed or awkward for telling you or asking you something, then she won't bring it up again and you will have shifted her idea of the social construct more towards yours and also you would also make her self esteem to rely slighlty more upon your affirmations of her (make her slightly more insecure). Yes this may be a bit sociopathic, but I have realized that this is how influential people are. Have a strong personality.
Women conform to what the boundaries of a social standard. You have to be a strong enough individual to be able to set your own standards and make her feel like your standards are actual social rules. A woman's number one fear is public shaming, so if you make her feel embarrassed or awkward for telling you or asking you something, then she won't bring it up again and you will have shifted her idea of the social construct more towards yours and also you would also make her self esteem to rely slighlty more upon your affirmations of her (make her slightly more insecure). Yes this may be a bit sociopathic, but I have realized that this is how influential people are. Have a strong personality.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
daddymonsterpoodle
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Yup and?
Or
”why? Don't you like sex?”
Or
”why? Don't you like sex?”
l_e_g_e_n_d
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"Yup."
The greater shamelessness in your response, the better.
The greater shamelessness in your response, the better.
old_skoolr
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Girl : You just want sex
Old Skoolr: Well not just sex, I'd like a sandwich afterwards too.
Old Skoolr: Well not just sex, I'd like a sandwich afterwards too.
Yup. That's what I got out of that from my own situations I've seen.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.