Buddha_Mind
Master Don Juan
Are you crazy?Darth said:First of all, the above poster (BuddaMind) = El Stud. I recognize his sentence structure.
Hi El STud.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Are you crazy?Darth said:First of all, the above poster (BuddaMind) = El Stud. I recognize his sentence structure.
Hi El STud.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Thats pathetic. A chick just being a chick in a sea of AFCdom and you go and rat her out to some loser who has no affiliation to you whatsoever? Nice going mate, I see the term "survival of the fittest" is totally lost on you.Brighty said:Been in that position before, and the day after I found out she had a boyfriend, I looked him up on facebook and sent him a message telling him that he's girlfriend is cheating on him and apologizing as I had no idea. There's one thing that I won't stand for and that really rubs me the wrong way is girls going behind their boyfriends' backs and the guy continuing to treat a slvt like a princess. Call it Guy code, call it Brighty code, whatever, even to total strangers I feel like any guy shouldn't get played like that.
Good to see you're back t!tties.( . )( . ) said:Thats pathetic. A chick just being a chick in a sea of AFCdom and you go and rat her out to some loser who has no affiliation to you whatsoever? Nice going mate, I see the term "survival of the fittest" is totally lost on you.
"Guy code" give me a break. Did he share this "guy code" you speak of and knock you out?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Mavrick said:It boils down to 2 things.
If you want to be the guy that goes for other guy's women when there is a world full of single ones out there, then don't tell him and continue to play with the wh0re. Otherwise, leave her alone, and let her bf know if you want. Then let him deal with it in what ever way he sees fit.
It's totally up to you what you want to do. A man who has otions will kick her to the curb, but a desperate man with run around with her behind her bf's back.
You should probably cause more conflict. Maybe be really convinced of your own opinions a little more, too.( . )( . ) said:They are all "other guys women", theres always some other guy orbiting in her life if she's half normal and decent looking, your particular set of morals youve decided to spew here only works if the guy happens to be out of touch with reality.