Would you marry a woman if she gave it up on the 1st date?

[JonnyD123]

Had a debate with a friend about this. Doesn't necessarily have to be marriage, but would you discourage any potential LTR with a woman if she gives it up on the 1st date?

 

[Who Dares Win]

Yes, all the girls which I considered more than fvck buddies were never easy at the beginning.

They never played games and always shown themselves interested and open to me but very gradually, they facilitated my life and even helped many times but gave sex slowly and gradually.

On the other side I have plenty of fvck buddies which gave me sex very fast but were a source of mind games, bullsh1t, head aches and other sh1t.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

What about if she already knew you. You knew from up front, she usually made guys wait quite a while.

And she finally got you. And she's like "why keep this charade up?" and has sex with you on the first actual date, because she really likes you. And you where the only one.

Would you look down upon her then?

 

[BrainDamage92]

if you cant sleep with a girl shortly after meeting her you missed the timing or she dont dig you that much. The thing that makes me miss timings is principles, I dwell on principles, then Im sure they are like "Is he gonna fuk me or what". Since I quit jerkin off things like physicall escalation are a joke to me I have no worries there the **** takes control. But I really need to clear moral out of my system as a girl friend of mine says: "You cant put moral and sex in the same sentance". Like I work at a hotel, heres a good one - "shall I sleep with girl who also has a boyfriend on my shift". Just say hell ye, and it becomes easy.

Look, I fuked up like this a few days ago, meet the girl everything is fine, Im having a nap on the reception couch, she comes at like 3 AM and wakes me up, Im like "****, Immo go there and sleep with her, she sends a text, some dudes come steal what they can then I have to work for nothing till I pay it off". Its **** like this I need to get over, couse theres alot of material in this place.

If Immo live for the pusy, immo have to be ready to die for the pusy to put it this way.

every girl is easy, its just the right man at the right place at the right time + raw chemistry which means biologically your offspring will be strong

this is why a girl can be attractive to one guy but no so much to another and in reverse, and its your nose that detects it rather than the eyes, hence - the scent of a woman

 

[badboyjmm]

I would have no problem with being in a LTR but the chick, because of social programming, will probably have an issue.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I would have no problem with being in a LTR but the chick, because of social programming, will probably have an issue.

So your belief is current social programming is making it nearly impossible to have a good relationship?

Never thought about it that way.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

...yeah - sorry, but you're asking the wrong question.

Realistically, you wouldn't know if the woman was someone you wanted to marry until you've dated them for a while - and even THEN, you could be wrong.

I had a buddy from college who was a virgin when he got married, to a woman who was also a virgin. 2.5 years and 1 kid later, they got divorced. So, despite her not giving it up on the first night - or at all during their relationship - it wasn't able to work out for reasons outside of sex (although sex - or lack thereof - also played a factor).

Meanwhile, there are women who have been married 20+ years to a guy whom they had sex with on a first date. You have to remember, when dealing with people there are more factors involved in determining what makes a "good woman" beyond her first night activities. There are also numerous reasons as to why a woman would give it up on the first night that don't involve her being a slvt. Maybe it was a year since she had any and she thought you looked attractive. Maybe she didn't plan to have sex with you, but the way you acted that night was so smooth that she went along with YOUR advanced moves when you started making them. Heck, maybe she WAS a slvt and thought you'd be another notch on her belt, and it turned out she felt a genuine connection with you that lasted long-term.

All that to say: her giving it up on the first date shouldn't deter any man from being with a woman long-term. Plus, isn't that backwards thinking? If she's giving it up the first night, that means YOU are doing the same thing! #nohypocrisy

 

[BMX]

^That was great Harry.

 

[Thorninmyside]

All that to say: her giving it up on the first date shouldn't deter any man from being with a woman long-term. Plus, isn't that backwards thinking? If she's giving it up the first night, that means YOU are doing the same thing! #nohypocrisy

Precisely.

Don't be too into the thrill of the chase. It's okay to be a success with a woman and have her submit to you from the beginning. Early frame is a good thing.

 

[RangerMIke]

Why would you be thinking of marriage after one date?

 

[badboyjmm]

So your belief is current social programming is making it nearly impossible to have a good relationship?

Never thought about it that way.

It a weird thing. In my experience, the girls had issues with the fact that we hook up on the first date. For that reason, I never was able to meet a girl after we hook up so quickly.

 

[Jaylan]

...yeah - sorry, but you're asking the wrong question.

Realistically, you wouldn't know if the woman was someone you wanted to marry until you've dated them for a while - and even THEN, you could be wrong.

I had a buddy from college who was a virgin when he got married, to a woman who was also a virgin. 2.5 years and 1 kid later, they got divorced. So, despite her not giving it up on the first night - or at all during their relationship - it wasn't able to work out for reasons outside of sex (although sex - or lack thereof - also played a factor).

Meanwhile, there are women who have been married 20+ years to a guy whom they had sex with on a first date. You have to remember, when dealing with people there are more factors involved in determining what makes a "good woman" beyond her first night activities. There are also numerous reasons as to why a woman would give it up on the first night that don't involve her being a slvt. Maybe it was a year since she had any and she thought you looked attractive. Maybe she didn't plan to have sex with you, but the way you acted that night was so smooth that she went along with YOUR advanced moves when you started making them. Heck, maybe she WAS a slvt and thought you'd be another notch on her belt, and it turned out she felt a genuine connection with you that lasted long-term.

All that to say: her giving it up on the first date shouldn't deter any man from being with a woman long-term. Plus, isn't that backwards thinking? If she's giving it up the first night, that means YOU are doing the same thing! #nohypocrisy

Good post. And I agree, one has to look at the entire package.

No girl I've dated seriously or casually has made me wait longer than a few weeks for sex. Usually the chemistry is right and there's no need for any "rules" or counting days.

Yeah sometimes people like to stick to their rules, but when the moment's right and the connection is great, go with the flow.

 

[Evzone]

I'd look down on her if she made me WAIT and played bull**** games. Is this a serious question?