"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Women @ work dont reply to my greetings. What would you do?

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And i notice them replying to other guys greetings and being all smiles and such so i guess the problem is really me.

I try to be civil and polite as i can, i respect their boundaries and don't even approach. Can it be that my looks turn these women off so bad that the best they can offer is cold stares, silence and indifference.

I avoid them as much as i can now, as well as most women, i got tired of this rigged game, unfortunately @work you need to courteous and polite as you share 40 hours per week with these women.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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marmel75

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Why the fvck are you trying to pick up women at work? Dying for a sexual harassment lawsuit?
 

Who Dares Win

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Well you are in the creep zone apparently.

Not sure if trolling or genuinely in need of great help considering all your messages.
 

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Why the fvck are you trying to pick up women at work? Dying for a sexual harassment lawsuit?
you misreaded my post, i've never said i'm picking women @ work. what i said is that they don't reply to my acts of politeness like greeting "morning, good night, see you tomorrow...". they act cold and dont greet back which causes a bad atmosphere.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Well you are in the creep zone apparently.

Not sure if trolling or genuinely in need of great help considering all your messages.
how can i be in the creep zone if i dont act creepy around them or make any sexual advancements. the only explanation for being in the creep zone is looks.
 

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The name suits the OP. What did you do to better yourself today?? My guess.......Nothing.
 

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The name suits the OP. What did you do to better yourself today?? My guess.......Nothing.
what does better myself has to do with the topic in question. but ok i'm all ears, please enlighten me with some tips.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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you misreaded my post, i've never said i'm picking women @ work. what i said is that they don't reply to my acts of politeness like greeting "morning, good night, see you tomorrow...". they act cold and dont greet back which causes a bad atmosphere.
This atmosphere is only in your mind. Stop greeting them if you are that concerned about it.
 

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what does better myself has to do with the topic in question. but ok i'm all ears, please enlighten me with some tips.
Nahh! We wasted 3 pages of trying to help you on your last thread having to do with the same topic. You seem to prefer to whine about how women treat you as opposed to getting off you a** and doing something about it.

Enlightenment is gifted to those who seek it. You won't find it on your couch.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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k thanks. at least is different from confidence
You wrote on my profile that you've already done plastic surgery and that it didn't help. If you want to, you can send me a PM with pictures and I will give you my honest opinion. I'm a very honest, but not a mean person. So, don't be afraid. I just want to help other people. So, if you want to hear my opinion, send me a PM. And in case you don't want to, that's fine too.
 

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Trolling or not I'm pretty sure we re never going to see a field report. Maybe we need a giant banner on the front of SS to say its a self Improvement site.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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