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What are your questions?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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She already reached out. Did she call your extension or your personal phone?
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She called my ext and thats when I told her to let me kno when she figure out her schedule
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So when you asked her out the first and second time. Did you call your extension or personal phone?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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So basically i should wait til she call me since I threw the ball back at her?
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Cause if i call her knowing I threw the ball back at her then its gonna make me look weak
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You are still not answering my questions. There are question marks at the end of each question.
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When I asked her out I called her personal phone
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I don't like it that she didn't call your personal number to tell you her number didn't change.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Why you think she might have deleted my number which is why she called me at my ext?
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You think I should asked her why she called my ext instead of my personal or just leave it alone since i put the ball back in her court
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That is an stupid question to ask!
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What should i do then and why you dont like the fact that she called me on my ext telling me her number didn't change?
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Well. All I can tell you is she wants you to call her to her personal number. Why doesn't she call you to your personal number. Sound like a validation. Why not ask you out. She knows you won't rape or eat her. I think she wants you to make a move, but you don't tell me her schedule... You seen her Facebook profile? Google her name? What about linkedin?
I believe the website "mylife" can tell you about her.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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I cant find her facebook so basically if she just called my ext to tell me to call her phone then it might just be validation n nothing else. She dont have a LinkedIn
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We have the same work schedule 7 on 7 off
Omg. 95 replies. Why is this even a discussion. Flake outs do not get a second chance. If she WAS INTERESTED then there would be no flake out. Only exception is if she gives a hard date and time as alternative.
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Do not call her. It seems to be premeditated. She didn't call your personal number because she knows you can dodge the call. However, you had no clue what she was going to talk about when she called your ext.
So she wanted you to receive the message. She was making sure.You still validated her no matter what.
If she really is wanting you, she should ask you out or hint for. I would take her to the movie theater and make out there after she hints.
If she tries to take you home to be her handy man, DON'T TRY TO FVCK her, unless she comes out naked of the restroom or grabs your hand and takes you to bed.
Be in control and only kiss her if she lets you, but no fvcking or try to unvolutarity undress her.
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Now that makes a lot of sense I didnt even think about it like that. The fact that she could've called me on my personal phone but chose to call my ext cause I have to answer my office phone no matter what and she knew that. Right now we on our days off and dont go back to work until monday
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.