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What are your questions?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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She already reached out. Did she call your extension or your personal phone?
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She called my ext and thats when I told her to let me kno when she figure out her schedule
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So when you asked her out the first and second time. Did you call your extension or personal phone?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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So basically i should wait til she call me since I threw the ball back at her?
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Cause if i call her knowing I threw the ball back at her then its gonna make me look weak
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You are still not answering my questions. There are question marks at the end of each question.
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When I asked her out I called her personal phone
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I don't like it that she didn't call your personal number to tell you her number didn't change.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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Why you think she might have deleted my number which is why she called me at my ext?
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You think I should asked her why she called my ext instead of my personal or just leave it alone since i put the ball back in her court
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That is an stupid question to ask!
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What should i do then and why you dont like the fact that she called me on my ext telling me her number didn't change?
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Well. All I can tell you is she wants you to call her to her personal number. Why doesn't she call you to your personal number. Sound like a validation. Why not ask you out. She knows you won't rape or eat her. I think she wants you to make a move, but you don't tell me her schedule... You seen her Facebook profile? Google her name? What about linkedin?
I believe the website "mylife" can tell you about her.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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I cant find her facebook so basically if she just called my ext to tell me to call her phone then it might just be validation n nothing else. She dont have a LinkedIn
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We have the same work schedule 7 on 7 off
Omg. 95 replies. Why is this even a discussion. Flake outs do not get a second chance. If she WAS INTERESTED then there would be no flake out. Only exception is if she gives a hard date and time as alternative.
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Do not call her. It seems to be premeditated. She didn't call your personal number because she knows you can dodge the call. However, you had no clue what she was going to talk about when she called your ext.
So she wanted you to receive the message. She was making sure.You still validated her no matter what.
If she really is wanting you, she should ask you out or hint for. I would take her to the movie theater and make out there after she hints.
If she tries to take you home to be her handy man, DON'T TRY TO FVCK her, unless she comes out naked of the restroom or grabs your hand and takes you to bed.
Be in control and only kiss her if she lets you, but no fvcking or try to unvolutarity undress her.
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Now that makes a lot of sense I didnt even think about it like that. The fact that she could've called me on my personal phone but chose to call my ext cause I have to answer my office phone no matter what and she knew that. Right now we on our days off and dont go back to work until monday
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.