"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Women bosses are hard to deal with

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Due to a tough chick boss that I had to deal with in the previous company where I was working as a consultant, I started to reflect about my past professional experiences and I find a pattern: the women bosses are the toughest to work for.

Full of pettiness, micromanagement, and impulsiveness that makes the environment almost impossible to be in.

Has anyone experienced something similar or has the same thought?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I think corporate/retail female bosses tend to be bad because being a female helps them in most entry level positions putting them in promoted positions unnecessarily. I think it’s called the Peter Principle.
 

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Thank God I work independently and am on the road 90% of the time. . I have 4 female bosses as I have 4 roles at my organization. My main boss is a sweetheart. The others…eh. But I can’t remember the last time I saw them.
 
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Oh yeah. They litter the scene at GS-13/14/GS-bullfckery. I banged a GS-13 doglady and realized she was another millenial fvckup without any eggs left. Wished her a Merry Christmas, caught my flight, got rid of any feelings I may have caught and looked ahead.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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They are counter productive. Always got in my fcking way. I called a few out to other leaders and got raked over the coals pretty much. Just know they put their heads in places they have absolutely NO business being in and somehow keep convincing others to do the same. They are in for a rude awakening in the future. Nobody will have the energy or best interest to save them from each and every debacle they create. It's called making mounds out of mole hills. They did a superb job of it. I quietly exited my career after calling out a toxic, bigot, Gen X, crusty white fk married w/kids to an obese white trash ogre. What can I say? White trash is always gonna white trash. All the toxic feminists took note and jumped off my nutz during some pity George Floyd stand down. LMAO. I let them know their petty BS drama was below that of my own situation. I live a much better life now.
 

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Eh, some are and some aren't. Same with men.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Male bosses are generally better than female bosses. There's less drama and petty bullshiit with male bosses.

Not all male bosses are good though. I have had some incompetent male bosses.
Generally, I think that's right. I've probably had more problems with female bosses than males, but my current boss is a woman and she's really good. I can't fault her really. Instinctively I do feel more comfortable with a man in charge though - and so do many women, I think.
 

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Yeah the worst boss I have ever had was a man tbh
Same here, I had a male boss stab me in the back and try to manufacture some dirt on me just he could look good and move up the ladder. Didn't work out for him, but what a pr!ck move.
 

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Of course, there are bad bosses for both sides. What I am reflecting, at least in my spectrum of experiences, is that the volume of affected professional experiences is mostly caused by women.

Trying to understand if there is a reason for this.

I've also had 1 or 2 female bosses that were fantastic.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Of course, there are bad bosses for both sides. What I am reflecting, at least in my spectrum of experiences, is that the volume of affected professional experiences is mostly caused by women.
Because women have an easier path to middle management as opposed to men. Middle Management turns most people in to shvt heads regardless of gender.
 

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Because women have an easier path to middle management as opposed to men. Middle Management turns most people in to shvt heads regardless of gender.
Women have an easier path into non-management individual contributor roles too.
 

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Due to a tough chick boss that I had to deal with in the previous company where I was working as a consultant, I started to reflect about my past professional experiences and I find a pattern: the women bosses are the toughest to work for.

Full of pettiness, micromanagement, and impulsiveness that makes the environment almost impossible to be in.

Has anyone experienced something similar or has the same thought?
Naw dude your observation is 100% correct. Female bosses are tough to work for if they are under stress.

"Most bad bosses are not female, but most females are bad bosses"

Even women dont like working for other women. The worst is a panel of female bosses.

Women react poorly under stress. Its not that they are bad people. Its just that their hyper emotionalism clashes with a males stoicism.

Would you want a female leading you out of a fox hole? No. Case closed.


 

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Eh, some are and some aren't. Same with men.
Zekko sometimes I feel you are too egalitarian bro lol. Yes there are bad male bosses ( plenty of them) but if we are honest most women dont make good leaders. I dont think you are being 100% honest maybe.

We admit that
1.) women want a confident man because they are indecisive
2.) women generally dont make good single mothers
3.) women are hyper emotional
yet
somehow women are just as competent at management as men??????

The logic does not follow. I think we sometimes feel bad for saying the truth so we try to sugarcoat it by saying " oh men are just as bad". False. Men are crap but women are even worse.

btw this is just a respectful pushback to what I assume is unnecessary political correctness. Dont take this personally its just healthy debate.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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