"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Women bosses are hard to deal with

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Due to a tough chick boss that I had to deal with in the previous company where I was working as a consultant, I started to reflect about my past professional experiences and I find a pattern: the women bosses are the toughest to work for.

Full of pettiness, micromanagement, and impulsiveness that makes the environment almost impossible to be in.

Has anyone experienced something similar or has the same thought?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I think corporate/retail female bosses tend to be bad because being a female helps them in most entry level positions putting them in promoted positions unnecessarily. I think it’s called the Peter Principle.
 

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Thank God I work independently and am on the road 90% of the time. . I have 4 female bosses as I have 4 roles at my organization. My main boss is a sweetheart. The others…eh. But I can’t remember the last time I saw them.
 
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Oh yeah. They litter the scene at GS-13/14/GS-bullfckery. I banged a GS-13 doglady and realized she was another millenial fvckup without any eggs left. Wished her a Merry Christmas, caught my flight, got rid of any feelings I may have caught and looked ahead.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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They are counter productive. Always got in my fcking way. I called a few out to other leaders and got raked over the coals pretty much. Just know they put their heads in places they have absolutely NO business being in and somehow keep convincing others to do the same. They are in for a rude awakening in the future. Nobody will have the energy or best interest to save them from each and every debacle they create. It's called making mounds out of mole hills. They did a superb job of it. I quietly exited my career after calling out a toxic, bigot, Gen X, crusty white fk married w/kids to an obese white trash ogre. What can I say? White trash is always gonna white trash. All the toxic feminists took note and jumped off my nutz during some pity George Floyd stand down. LMAO. I let them know their petty BS drama was below that of my own situation. I live a much better life now.
 

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Eh, some are and some aren't. Same with men.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Male bosses are generally better than female bosses. There's less drama and petty bullshiit with male bosses.

Not all male bosses are good though. I have had some incompetent male bosses.
Generally, I think that's right. I've probably had more problems with female bosses than males, but my current boss is a woman and she's really good. I can't fault her really. Instinctively I do feel more comfortable with a man in charge though - and so do many women, I think.
 

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Yeah the worst boss I have ever had was a man tbh
Same here, I had a male boss stab me in the back and try to manufacture some dirt on me just he could look good and move up the ladder. Didn't work out for him, but what a pr!ck move.
 

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Of course, there are bad bosses for both sides. What I am reflecting, at least in my spectrum of experiences, is that the volume of affected professional experiences is mostly caused by women.

Trying to understand if there is a reason for this.

I've also had 1 or 2 female bosses that were fantastic.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Of course, there are bad bosses for both sides. What I am reflecting, at least in my spectrum of experiences, is that the volume of affected professional experiences is mostly caused by women.
Because women have an easier path to middle management as opposed to men. Middle Management turns most people in to shvt heads regardless of gender.
 

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Because women have an easier path to middle management as opposed to men. Middle Management turns most people in to shvt heads regardless of gender.
Women have an easier path into non-management individual contributor roles too.
 

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Due to a tough chick boss that I had to deal with in the previous company where I was working as a consultant, I started to reflect about my past professional experiences and I find a pattern: the women bosses are the toughest to work for.

Full of pettiness, micromanagement, and impulsiveness that makes the environment almost impossible to be in.

Has anyone experienced something similar or has the same thought?
Naw dude your observation is 100% correct. Female bosses are tough to work for if they are under stress.

"Most bad bosses are not female, but most females are bad bosses"

Even women dont like working for other women. The worst is a panel of female bosses.

Women react poorly under stress. Its not that they are bad people. Its just that their hyper emotionalism clashes with a males stoicism.

Would you want a female leading you out of a fox hole? No. Case closed.


 

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Eh, some are and some aren't. Same with men.
Zekko sometimes I feel you are too egalitarian bro lol. Yes there are bad male bosses ( plenty of them) but if we are honest most women dont make good leaders. I dont think you are being 100% honest maybe.

We admit that
1.) women want a confident man because they are indecisive
2.) women generally dont make good single mothers
3.) women are hyper emotional
yet
somehow women are just as competent at management as men??????

The logic does not follow. I think we sometimes feel bad for saying the truth so we try to sugarcoat it by saying " oh men are just as bad". False. Men are crap but women are even worse.

btw this is just a respectful pushback to what I assume is unnecessary political correctness. Dont take this personally its just healthy debate.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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