"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Women bosses are hard to deal with

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Due to a tough chick boss that I had to deal with in the previous company where I was working as a consultant, I started to reflect about my past professional experiences and I find a pattern: the women bosses are the toughest to work for.

Full of pettiness, micromanagement, and impulsiveness that makes the environment almost impossible to be in.

Has anyone experienced something similar or has the same thought?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I think corporate/retail female bosses tend to be bad because being a female helps them in most entry level positions putting them in promoted positions unnecessarily. I think it’s called the Peter Principle.
 

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Thank God I work independently and am on the road 90% of the time. . I have 4 female bosses as I have 4 roles at my organization. My main boss is a sweetheart. The others…eh. But I can’t remember the last time I saw them.
 
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Oh yeah. They litter the scene at GS-13/14/GS-bullfckery. I banged a GS-13 doglady and realized she was another millenial fvckup without any eggs left. Wished her a Merry Christmas, caught my flight, got rid of any feelings I may have caught and looked ahead.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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They are counter productive. Always got in my fcking way. I called a few out to other leaders and got raked over the coals pretty much. Just know they put their heads in places they have absolutely NO business being in and somehow keep convincing others to do the same. They are in for a rude awakening in the future. Nobody will have the energy or best interest to save them from each and every debacle they create. It's called making mounds out of mole hills. They did a superb job of it. I quietly exited my career after calling out a toxic, bigot, Gen X, crusty white fk married w/kids to an obese white trash ogre. What can I say? White trash is always gonna white trash. All the toxic feminists took note and jumped off my nutz during some pity George Floyd stand down. LMAO. I let them know their petty BS drama was below that of my own situation. I live a much better life now.
 

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Eh, some are and some aren't. Same with men.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Male bosses are generally better than female bosses. There's less drama and petty bullshiit with male bosses.

Not all male bosses are good though. I have had some incompetent male bosses.
Generally, I think that's right. I've probably had more problems with female bosses than males, but my current boss is a woman and she's really good. I can't fault her really. Instinctively I do feel more comfortable with a man in charge though - and so do many women, I think.
 

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Yeah the worst boss I have ever had was a man tbh
Same here, I had a male boss stab me in the back and try to manufacture some dirt on me just he could look good and move up the ladder. Didn't work out for him, but what a pr!ck move.
 

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Of course, there are bad bosses for both sides. What I am reflecting, at least in my spectrum of experiences, is that the volume of affected professional experiences is mostly caused by women.

Trying to understand if there is a reason for this.

I've also had 1 or 2 female bosses that were fantastic.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Of course, there are bad bosses for both sides. What I am reflecting, at least in my spectrum of experiences, is that the volume of affected professional experiences is mostly caused by women.
Because women have an easier path to middle management as opposed to men. Middle Management turns most people in to shvt heads regardless of gender.
 

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Because women have an easier path to middle management as opposed to men. Middle Management turns most people in to shvt heads regardless of gender.
Women have an easier path into non-management individual contributor roles too.
 

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Due to a tough chick boss that I had to deal with in the previous company where I was working as a consultant, I started to reflect about my past professional experiences and I find a pattern: the women bosses are the toughest to work for.

Full of pettiness, micromanagement, and impulsiveness that makes the environment almost impossible to be in.

Has anyone experienced something similar or has the same thought?
Naw dude your observation is 100% correct. Female bosses are tough to work for if they are under stress.

"Most bad bosses are not female, but most females are bad bosses"

Even women dont like working for other women. The worst is a panel of female bosses.

Women react poorly under stress. Its not that they are bad people. Its just that their hyper emotionalism clashes with a males stoicism.

Would you want a female leading you out of a fox hole? No. Case closed.


 

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Eh, some are and some aren't. Same with men.
Zekko sometimes I feel you are too egalitarian bro lol. Yes there are bad male bosses ( plenty of them) but if we are honest most women dont make good leaders. I dont think you are being 100% honest maybe.

We admit that
1.) women want a confident man because they are indecisive
2.) women generally dont make good single mothers
3.) women are hyper emotional
yet
somehow women are just as competent at management as men??????

The logic does not follow. I think we sometimes feel bad for saying the truth so we try to sugarcoat it by saying " oh men are just as bad". False. Men are crap but women are even worse.

btw this is just a respectful pushback to what I assume is unnecessary political correctness. Dont take this personally its just healthy debate.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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