"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Why women are entitled
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
El Payaso
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Some girl snapchatted her body and a guy responded with that message over the picture.
She took a screenshot of it and shared it on her Facebook with laughing emojis.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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wifehunter
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me thinks, maybe not
RichardTheFrog
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And who are those chosen few? I would like to be one but it's seeming like that's not going to happen.
What is it that I'm missing? What do they have that I don't?
user43770
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The ability to speak to women.
You can learn game just by reading it, but you actually have to practice it to get any good at it.
RichardTheFrog
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When I talk, they don't talk back.
I can talk all day long if there's something to talk about. But I can't create conversation from nowhere.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
user43770
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Well then look through the dj bible for conversation topics and then go out and practice.
The book How to Win Friends and Influence People would help you out a lot.
RichardTheFrog
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I read that book. It was stupid. I don't want to win friends or influence people.
user43770
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We're all thirsty. It's the delivery that counts.
user43770
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That's exactly what you want to do.
RichardTheFrog
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No, I don't. I don't believe in male friends. It's everyone for themselves.
You know how many times I've been ripped off by someone claiming to be my friend? After a certain age, it's gay to have male friends.
Influence people to do what? I can't change the world on a massive scale.
I'd rather stay to myself and make money quietly.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
user43770
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You want to influence women to sleep with you. To do that, you need to learn how to hold a converstation, hence the book.
RichardTheFrog
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I can talk all day if there's actually something to talk about. I had an appointment with a female nutritionist today and we talked for close to an hour. I can talk to girls that work at bank, post office, etc.
But I can't create a conversation out of nowhere.
Bible_Belt
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Then why should anyone else ever help you?
Masculinity
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Dude in the pic is pathetic.
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We shouldn't blame women for reacting to and taking advantage of the weakness of men. In this day and age, men can very easily learn how to become successful owing to the abundance of information and advice available online. If they can't be bothered to learn, I don't care, because it means more ***** for me.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.