"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Why so many threads getting locked?

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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MikeYikes122

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A lot of flaming and flame-bating recently. I don't even really like starting threads anymore.

That and there have been a lot of looks threads or threads that have somehow turned into a looks debate.
 

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Lol.

It seems like only certain people with certain stances are labeled flamers, when actually there are a lot of "flamers", and a lot of "flaming" going on.

I think someone is too gung ho.
 

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iqqi said:
I think someone is too gung ho.
You are challenging the MAN Iqqi...you have been forewarned.

Bring down the hammer Mods!!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Threads are getting locked because people are going completely off-topic. My very first thread on this board asking for advice, turned into a 100+ post flame-war mostly between two idiots who could care less what the OP was about and just wanted to call each other names.

I'm surprised they haven't shut down more threads.
 

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AgonyUncle said:
I'm going to take a wild guess that it was for the reasons Rollo stated in every thread that he locked. If you had additional questions about his reasoning, why didn't you just PM him instead of making a thread about it?
 

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It has nothing to do with my thread being locked. If you look at the front page of this forum, there are about 5 or 6 that are locked. It seems to be a common practice, and I was curious to know why. That was the reason why I riased it

Saying that, I find it rather amusing that Iqqi calls for a thread lock only to have her wish granted. I know the thread offended her judging by the responses she gave, but calling for the thead to be locked seemed a little, i dunno, extreme.

Sorry Iqqi. American women are ugly and dumb :)

/duck
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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AgonyUncle

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Perhaps.

Locking a thread is akin to censorship. And thats for facist terrorists thank you very much. :)
 

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AgonyUncle said:
Perhaps.

Locking a thread is akin to censorship. And thats for facist terrorists thank you very much. :)
If you read the thread you would know why they are locked.

ps this forum isn't a democracy, its a dictatorship run by the owner.
 

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AgonyUncle said:
Perhaps.

Locking a thread is akin to censorship. And thats for facist terrorists thank you very much. :)
You could always defect, I don't even think that a travel visa is required.
 

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Suicide bombing is oh so last year.

Im all about whippings over teddy bears called Mo these days.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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ok, I will take you at your word and forgive you, then. Sarcasm is not easy to see in text.

I *really* hate it when about any thread is locked. I think mods do it too much.
 

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AgonyUncle said:
Perhaps.

Locking a thread is akin to censorship. And thats for facist terrorists thank you very much. :)
Nice bit o drama there queenie. Maybe you should demand a refund. As a forum admin myself I hate it when people whip this idiotic argument out.

Censorship is something the state does. Although available to the public this is a privately run forum and not really much different than being in someone's living room. If they don't like what you're saying they can tell you to shut up or throw you out, no explanations needed.

Instead of whining about censorship, maybe you should be thanking them for making this available at no charge. Failing that you can a) leave or b) get off your lazy ass and setup your own forum so that you can listen to functional retards equate enforcing the house rules with terrorism.

Do you let your dog crap in the house? No? I guess that makes you a fascist terrorist too.:box:
 

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Eddie417 said:
Nice bit o drama there queenie. Maybe you should demand a refund. As a forum admin myself I hate it when people whip this idiotic argument out.

Censorship is something the state does. Although available to the public this is a privately run forum and not really much different than being in someone's living room. If they don't like what you're saying they can tell you to shut up or throw you out, no explanations needed.

Instead of whining about censorship, maybe you should be thanking them for making this available at no charge. Failing that you can a) leave or b) get off your lazy ass and setup your own forum so that you can listen to functional retards equate enforcing the house rules with terrorism.

Do you let your dog crap in the house? No? I guess that makes you a fascist terrorist too.:box:
:up:
 

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Eddie417 said:
Although available to the public this is a privately run forum and not really much different than being in someone's living room. If they don't like what you're saying they can tell you to shut up or throw you out, no explanations needed.
Yeah... I'm pretty sure this is Allen's living room, in that context, not Rollo's.

And I am pretty sure Allen would be more apt to agree with this little nugget here:

Bible_Belt said:
I *really* hate it when about any thread is locked. I think mods do it too much.
Respectfully, iqqi.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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